Breaking Up but Broken Hearted: How to Break Up With Someone You Still Have Feelings For
However, breaking up is so much more complicated when you still have strong feelings for the person you’re breaking up with. It could be that you can’t tolerate all the fighting and arguing anymore, or that you’ve lost your trust for them (particularly if they’ve betrayed you in some way).
If this sounds like you, and you’re wondering how best to call time on your relationship; here are a few excellent tips to help you.
Breaking Up With Someone You Still Love: Top Tips
- Remember why you’re doing it. It’s likely that emotions will be running high when you tell your partner that you want to break up. As a result, it’s easy to buckle under the pressure and agree to stay together after all, rather than causing your partner all this pain. However, it’s important to keep in mind why you want to break up and not to lose sight of that fact.
- Do it face to face. It’s tempting to hide behind a phone or computer screen when breaking painful news; but you owe it to your partner to have the important conversation in person, as a mark of respect.
- Explain why. Don’t shy away from providing your partner with the reason as to why you’re breaking things off with them. In fact, it’s really important that they know and understand why you’re breaking up with them; it will help them to avoid the same mistakes in their next relationship.
- Be gentle! When breaking up with your partner, try to do it as gently as possible. Don’t do it in a public place, as this is likely to inhibit both of you. Instead, do it somewhere private, allow your partner to express their emotions and avoid confrontation at all costs; after all, you want to be able to stay friends in the future.