10 Ways to Resist Having an Office Affair
Oh no! Are you tempted by that sexy office vixen who is suddenly paying so much attention to your TPS reports? Or perhaps, your dashing and handsome boss is making the moves on you.
Of course, under different circumstances you would be flattered at the attention and might even pursue it with discretion—provided you weren’t already spoken for! Yes, that IS a big deal. And though you love your spouse madly and deeply, it can be very difficult to reject the advances of an attractive coworker. No problem…here are 10 ways to resist that smoldering office affair.
You know, being flirty, jokey and the guy next door is not really professional at all! A lot of guys (and many women too) get far too comfortable with their coworkers and may begin treating them like girlfriends, little sisters or platonic friends. Office protocol calls for professionalism in all of your interactions. No sexual tension, no inappropriate flirting or innuendos. In the end, being nice but professional will reduce a great deal of temptation.
Don’t encourage flirty behavior.
When you laugh at a joke, giggle at awkward tension or make too much small talk with an attractive coworker you are purposely or inadvertently encouraging them to keep going. You may think you’re only being nice, but you are actually sending receptive signals telling your office friend to go on and “Keep being your charming self!” The best way to eliminate office temptation is to just stop reacting to inappropriate behavior.
Work out any complicated issues with your spouse.
The main reason office affairs happen is because something is lacking in a couple’s relationship at home. Either one or both partners are sexually frustrated, or perhaps there are emotional or trust issues that need to be talked out. When you ignore these relationship needs, trouble starts brewing. Your subconscious sees that you can get romantic attention elsewhere. This is where temptation—and disaster—can strike.
Take a long hard look at this other person and see his/her flaws.
First off, if the other person knows you’re married and is pursuing a romance anyway, this indicates some major personal issues and some “drama” that you don’t want any part of. Take an objective look at the other person and determine why they are so interested in you. What is missing in his or her life that is making them receptive to you? You who are “unavailable.” Chances are; he or she only wants you because you’re a challenge. If you were to form a real relationship with this person you might be surprised at how empty it is after the sexual tension is released.
Ask for a transfer.
This is obviously a last resort. However, if you can’t get this other person out of your mind, then you will have to choose between a healthy marriage or committed relationship, or an office fling. If you can’t stop obsessing about this person, the problem is only going to get worse. It’s better that you remove all temptation completely rather than continue suffering on a daily basis.
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