Ways to Behave with Your Crush When in a Group...
Don’t dominate the conversation
Your crush wants to talk with everyone in the group, not just you. So remember to get your crush’s attention by talking, but don’t talk over everyone else because that will just end up turning your crush away from you. No one likes someone that tries to steal all the attention away. You want to steal a little attention so your crush knows you are there and gets the hint you are interested, but pull the brakes when you feel yourself becoming too overbearing with the conversation.
It is important to be confident in who you are. If you feel confident in who you are, it will shine through in everything that you do. Being confident shows your crush that you are comfortable with yourself and that you are not afraid. You don’t want to be over confident though, because that can sometimes be perceived as arrogance or having a large ego. At the same time, don’t have too little confidence because that can come across as not being certain of yourself or being comfortable with your own identity.
A smile goes a long way. Everyone looks better with a smile on his or her face and smiling will help attract more attention from your crush to you. A smile is also contagious, so chances are that once you smile, your crush will smile back at you. And why wouldn’t you want to see that gorgeous smile? Laughing is also a good idea. Laughs are even more contagious than a smile. So laugh at all your crush’s jokes, no matter how stupid, because then you get a smile, a laugh, and more attention on you.
At the same time that you don’t want to dominate the conversation, you don’t want to be completely quiet either. Show interest and have a good time. Enjoy the conversation and add your input so that your crush can learn about you while you learn about your crush. Conversation is the start of every productive relationship.
Of course, you want to behold this dazzling specimen for the entire night, but at the same time, if you stare at your crush for moments on end, chances are, you will scare your crush away. Stealing glances every now and then to get his eye contact is okay to do, but you don’t want to have a blinking contest with a person that doesn’t even know they are supposed to be playing! Staring can get creepy as well and make it seem as if you are the stalker that no one likes having. Don’t be a stalker, dude.
Compliment your crush
Everyone enjoys a compliment, even your lofty crush. So find a way to sneak it into the conversation, whether it happens right when you walk up, or whenever you walk away from the group or even during the conversation. If the conversation is being dominated by sports, you can compliment your crush on his/her athletic abilities, or if it is being dominated by fashion, you can compliment your crush on his/her incredible fashion sense. Either way, sneaking in a compliment is easy and can go disguised, but your crush will be able to take notice that you recognize those things about them. This also gives the two of you a confidence boost!
Act your age
No one likes the continual baby talk that people do, nor do we appreciate someone that acts like a goof-off when they are at the age where they should be sophisticated and charming. Sure, goofing off is fun every now and then, but make sure it is an appropriate time for it. On the other hand, don’t act overly parental, as no one wants to feel like they have a “parent” in the group. Find the delicate balance between responsibility and whimsy.
Make it a point to have fun
It is important to enjoy yourself. Even if you happen to hate whatever activity may be going on, try to have fun. If it is something that you are absolutely not good at, trying is still better than pouting about it. Besides, someone who can laugh at themselves always shows good character. Be okay with who you are and what you can or cannot do. Who knows, maybe you and your crush will develop an inside joke about your lack of abilities in a sport or knowledge in a certain subject. It’ll be a running gag, and something to giggle about later on in your married life!
Remember: Your crush is human too
Chances are, your crush may very well have a crush on you too. Your crush has feelings, thoughts, emotions, wants, needs, likes and dislikes. Don’t judge your crush too harshly for any of these things. It is also important to remember that even though you may want to do everything in your power to date this person, this does not make your crush better than you or “out of your league.” Don’t allow your crush to belittle you. Stand up for yourself and love yourself just as much as a pretty face.
Above all else, be yourself
This is probably the most important piece of advice in the entire list: be yourself. If you put up a front and pretend to be someone that you are not, then if the time does come when your crush wants to date you, it would be upsetting to both of you that you are not the same person as your crush thought you were from the beginning. If he or she doesn’t like you for whom you truly are, then they probably aren’t worth the effort to begin with. Being yourself and being comfortable with who you are shows not only to your crush, but everyone else in the group, that you are a genuine person and that no matter your other personality traits, you are the best you that you can be.
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