Top 5 ways to give each other more space in a relationship
A relationship starts decaying if either of the partners start feeling suffocated by the over clinginess of their partner. If you really want your relationship to sustain forever and last till eternity, check out the following ways that will help you understand how you can give your partner more space in the relationship. Being in a relationship isn't a game, it requires a lot of effort to maintain it, pass through all the tests of time and still remain intact.
#1 : Spending Time with friends
You need to understand that yes, you are the most special person in your lover's life but certainly not the only person in his/her life. He/she must be having some special friends who have always been there for him/her, friends with whom he/she shares a lot of his/her childhood memories. If you try to stop your lover from meeting his/her friends or terminating his guy time or her girl time, you are heading for trouble. This will not get you closer to your lover but trigger a repulsive force in him/her.
If you really don't want to part ways or to make the relationship seem a burden, let your partner enjoy some time with his/her friends also. It is expected of you to respect the fact that yes, friends are also important and sometimes you need to spend sometime with them. If he plans to go out for clubbing or sports with his guy friends, let him do it and try not to intervene a lot during those hours. Similarly, when your sweetie goes out with her girl gang, don't keep calling her as this may put her off. You both should spend time with your friends occasionally as this will help you give space to each other.
#2 : Take up separate hobbies
Yes you both love each other but it's not necessary that you both have exactly same set of interests. You may have a few intersecting hobbies, but not all. Both of you should indulge in separate hobbies that interest you both. If you like gyming and your partner likes dancing, start pursuing these hobbies as these will give you some alone time to relax. Being in a relationship definitely demands time and attention for your lover but don't forget to love yourself. You need to give some time to yourself also. Indulging in a hobby will get you this time to breathe!
#3 : Pressing too much for answers
Every individual is unique and has his/her own ways of getting through different situations in life. If you see your partner quiet or exhibiting unusual behavior, you should not trigger negativity by asking questions and then pressing too much for the answers. You need to give him/her the space to understand the question and then take his/her to process it. Don't get mad at him/her for not being instantly responsive.
#4 : Getting too clingy and a mind reader
Trying to get close to your lover by calling him/her every five minutes or flooding his/her phone with text messages and then expecting him/her to reply to all of them can be really dangerous for the health of the relationship. You need to understand that you both have different set of circumstances to face each day. If he/she cannot reply back to your texts or calls, don't start drawing inferences that he/she might be with someone else. Be empathetic enough to realize that he/she can be stuck with some urgent work that's under critical delivery schedules because of which he/she could not respond. An overdose of clinginess can cause the relationship to suffer. Give the space and time to your lover to finish up his/her chores and then explain the true reasons behind his/her not being able to respond instantly.
#5 : Explain the importance of space to your partner
If you still feel that your lover has not been able to understand your signals, it's time to go explicit. Talk to your partner and explain the importance of space in a relationship. Reassure your partner that space is vital for mutual growth. Communication always works. Take out time and explain things to your beloved in a subtle way that space is an essential ingredient for nurturing a relationship.
These were the top 5 ways that will help you sustain the togetherness even by giving the desired space to your beloved.
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