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Top 5 ways to forgive your lover

Posted on :2013-05-13 in

Have you been hurt by your lover? Are you finding it difficult to believe that he/she behaved in a way you had never ever expected them to?

All of us at some point of time in our life are faced with damn tricky situations where we need to fight against our mind and forgive the one we love, just because we want that person in our life forever. The hearts overtakes the mind because the very thought of being without your special someone rips you apart.

If you have landed up in such a situation where you feel your heart sinking because of your lover's actions or words but you still want to forget your pain and forgive him/her, the following 5 points will be of great help to you.

Use any of these top 5 ways to forgive your lover and restore the elements of peace and happiness.
 

Top 5 ways to forgive your lover

#1. Talk it over

Open and effective communication is the key to all problems. If there has been an argument between the two of you during which your partner said or did something that hurt your feelings, then instead of brooding over it you should straight away communicate it to your lover. Find out enough time and a proper place where you can meet your partner and discuss things at length. Explain your lover's mistake to him/her, tell him what all hurt you. Instead of fighting over what happened, the meeting should have a fruitful outcome by coming out with solutions to resolve things and better the relationship for the future.

#2. Let go the EGO

To err is human! Don't expect your lover to be perfect. If your lover has committed a mistake for which he/she is guilty, you should be generous enough to accommodate the apology and forgive him/her. Don't let your ego intervene else it shall lead to the decay of the relationship ultimately. Give preference to your heart but don't be blinded in his/her love. Think it over, make him/her realize their mistake and then forgive.

#3. Listen Carefully

If your partner comes up to you with an apology for what went wrong, you'll need to be a little observant of his/her body language as well. Listen to whatever he/she has to say and try to analyze if the body language matches with what he/she is actually saying. If you feel even the slightest discrepancy, tell him/her you need time to think. You can't just forgive for welcoming him/her to hurt you again. An apology should be heartfelt and carry immense meaning. If his/her words sound empty to you, don't grant forgiveness that very moment, take time!

#4. Frequency

Is it the first time he/she is saying sorry or is it a routine thing now? You need to do a self realization that even you are a human who gets hurt! If you cry and your tears don't move your lover, believe me, this love isn't true! A true lover will never let you cry and even if you do, he/she will make every possible effort to stop the second drop of tear before it rolls down your cheeks! That's how intense and strong a relationship should be. Check if committing mistakes and then saying sorry has become a habit for your lover. If yes, it's a high time that you teach him/her a lesson first and then resort to forgiveness. He/she can't take you for granted, always remember this!

#5. Be positive

The last way is to think positive and grant forgiveness to your lover hoping he/she wouldn't repeat such a thing in the future. God gives us seven times seventy chances, then why can't we try to forgive our loved ones for a few times. Be an optimist and grant forgiveness to your partner.

These were the top 5 ways for forgiving your partner if he/she does something that hurts your emotions. Never forget that forgiveness should be given before it is even asked for. But, if the same mistake happens over and over again, it's time to raise a red flag and warn your lover that you are reaching the limit of your patience. Love is about losing yourself but not about compromising so much that in the end your happiness doesn't matter anymore! You have every right to be loved and cared for just the way you do it for your lover. So, forgive and forget, and move on. But never let anything become so big that it starts having adverse effects! Life is about being happy, so live it that way!
 

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