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Top 5 things that ruin relationships

Posted on :2013-04-17 in

Being in a relationship is the most beautiful feeling in the world. When you have someone special who loves you and cares for you more than anyone else, it like a dream come true.

But it isn't a flower of bed always! If you want your relationship to flourish, you'll need to nurture it with care, affection and loyalty. Many a times, knowingly or unknowingly, couples keep doing such things that work against the relationship and induce a repulsive force between them.

If you don't want your relationship to suffer, be careful with these top 5 things that ruin relationships. Don't do any of these as these are the red flags that would urge your partner to part ways with you.

#1. Little or No Appreciation

While being in a relationship, if you keep criticizing your partner more than you appreciate him/her, you'll ultimately kill your relationship. Your attempts to put down your partner all the time can work like a poison for the relationship. An exhibition of continuous disrespect for your partner can trigger negativity which will gradually lead to the end of this bond of love! Always remember, a relationship is based on love and respect for your partner, if you don’t have either of them, it's not love!
 

Top 5 things that ruin relationships

#2. Raising grievances from the past

Past is past and should not be carried into the present. If you ever get into any argument or fight with your partner, you shouldn't take it as an opportunity to raise grievances from the past and start blaming them on your partner. If you start fighting over the issues and mistakes of the past, you will be heading for trouble. This way you'll never be able to fix an issue which would steer things in the wrong direction and take the relationship towards its end. So, if you don't want the relationship to die it's better to live in the present and resolve issues then and there. Don't drag the past into the present as it will hamper the relationship drastically!

#3. Defensive when criticised

When you are in love with someone, you share all the good and bad things, isn't it? Relationship is about togetherness. It's about helping each other in becoming better with every passing day. If your partner tells you about something that he/she did not like about your behaviour, or may be anything else, and you start getting defensive, you may end up pissing him/her off. A partner feels the right to let you know about any shortcomings and helps you overcome them. If you don't regard his/her opinions and act stubborn by sticking to what you think is right, you'll end up being the sufferer. Appreciate your partner's criticism and take it in a healthy manner. He/she is your true lover who wants you to be a near-perfection human being. Value it!

#4 . Expecting a little too much

It's not the relationship that hurts but the underlying set of expectations that two people have from each other. It's natural to expect some bit of reciprocation in terms of love and affection from your partner when you shower them with all your love and care straight from the core of your heart. It's perfectly human to expect but if you start expecting too much, then it becomes a problem. Becoming too demanding can sever your bond. Don't expect your partner to behave like a perfect human being because none of us is. All of us are imperfectly perfect in our own ways. And true love is about loving an imperfect person perfectly. So, stop burdening your partner with unnecessary expectations to act in ways that please you, mind you love is not about pleasing at all!

Don't get too clingy for getting your wishes and expectations fulfilled as this may pull your partner away. If you try to dominate or control his/her behaviour, you may see your partner running for the hills!

#5. Self Love and Ego

Yes, it is essential to love oneself before you can expect anyone else to appreciate you and love you, but if you start drowning in the pool of self-admiration, you'll end up nowhere. Remember that you are in a relationship where it's not just you alone, you have a partner who loves you more than anyone else would ever love, respect this fact. If you keep bragging about your beauty or looks, or intellect or for that matter anything, it can cost you the life of the relationship. If you come across as a person who has a great ego, you'll notice your partner withdrawing from this union in no time. A vital ingredient that fuels the flame of a relationship is accepting love and returning it with purity and completeness.

These were the top 5 things that can cause a relationship to ruin. If you want to make this relationship to last till the end of eternity, avoid exhibiting these pointers. Relationship is not about you alone, it's about celebrating every single moment that you both share as a “we”, together.

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