10 Sure Signs You Are Ready For A Marriage
The traditional belief is that marriages are made in heaven. But trust me, it takes much more than that to make a marriage work. A marriage is not a child’s play, and it does need a good amount of planning.
Yes, it is a matter of heart. But the suggestions and intuitions of your brain should be taken to consideration too. You should walk the aisle only when you are absolutely sure and ready.
Here are ten signs that would help you gauge whether you are ready for marriage yet –
1. You trust your partner completely: Take your time to know your partner well. The fundamental ground for a strong bond is complete trust and reliance. You can believe in a person only when you are absolutely sure of what the person can or cannot do. You are about to trust the person with your life, future and happiness. Do so only when you are absolutely sure that she/he is the (only) one for you.
2. You can think of a life in unison: Try to imagine your future with the person you are dating. Can you see the two of you together, say, ten years from now? Can you think of spending your whole life with this person? Can you share your all with this person? Can you think of starting a family with this person? If your answer to these questions is ‘Yes’, you have found your match.
3. You share each other’s vision and mission: Dating someone is okay. It is a theory that opposites attract. But when we put these into practical perspective and judge using marriage as a parameter, too many differences between you and your partner risk the durability of your relationship. Adjusting to differences is possible only when you agree with each other about the fundamental principles of life.
4. You like your partner as is: Do you believe in the dreamy concept of changing your partner to your liking? If yes, then I suggest you come back to earth and do a reality check. You would not like to change who you really are for anyone, right? Well, then you cannot expect it from anyone else either. It is kind of looking down upon your partner and binding her/him with conditions. Marry only when you can love the person unconditionally for who she/he actually is.
5. You do not have fundamental differences: Every marriage needs adjustments. Adjustments are alright when done at the superfluous level. It is difficult to change the morals and values that you have been brought up with. It is very difficult to live your whole life with someone who does not share with you the basic ethics and doctrines that you abide by.
6. You appreciate each other’s family and friends: Marriage is not only about the two of you. It involves social acceptance as man and wife too. You are not expected to be best of friends with her/his family or to become one of the regulars in her/his gang of friends. But you should at least gel well with them and be comfortable around them.
7. You know each other’s background and past: Secrets are a big No when you consider marriage. It is best to be fully aware of what you are and will be getting. It is hurtful to learn about your partner from anyone else. A background check is also considered a safety measure in today’s world.
8. You have all your doubts and reservations clarified: You should not enter into a bond with hesitation. If you have any doubts, have them clarified beforehand. Surprises are not always pleasant. Surprises may be romantic, but being aware is more practical.
9. You are both mature enough for added responsibilities: Marriage means a lot of added responsibilities to share – social, financial, behavioral. Marriage thrives best on a secure ground. Be sure that you are ready to gift your partner security and stability before you decide to tie the knot.
10. You are ready to adapt for each other: It is natural that you have to make some lifestyle changes to accommodate a permanent member in your life. You should not feel bogged down having to do so. Marry a person for whom you would be ready to do some lifestyle spring-cleaning.
Marriage is a sacrament that has huge significance. It can make or break your life. It is best to tie the knot after you have given a considerable thought to the pros and cons and have figured out whether you are ready to shoulder the onus of it.
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