Top 10: Signs You're A Friend, Not A Boyfriend
Greetings to all our brothers in the friend zone! What is the friend zone? Isn’t being friends with a girl a good thing—a stepping stone to bigger and better things? Ah, you've really got to watch yourself with technicalities. Just ask any lawyer out there…"being friends” and “wanting to be friends” are two very different things. One of them is precisely what you want and the other is going to be the beginning of a miserable, lonely life. So let’s talk about technicalities.
Be a Friend, not a “Friend”
A woman doesn’t want to sleep with a cute guy just because she meets him and he seems nice. She does want to become “friends”, although friends in this context is really a code word for “possibility.” She wants to categorize you as a maybe and the closest thing to that is a “friend”, or at least a sexy acquaintance which she hopes to learn more about in the near future.
Now let’s consider the other side of the coin: a woman wanting to be “just friends.” Do you notice the subtle change in language there? It’s not a matter of hoping to be friends or desiring closer friendship—she JUST wants to be friends. She is limiting your rights and imposing restrictions. This is never a good thing, whether you’re married and whipped or whether you’re single and hoping she’s got a crush on you, like you do on her.
She is also telling you that she enjoys your company as a friend—not as a possibility, a lover, or a guy available. She has lost whatever attraction she initially had and you have been relegated to a “zone” of sexless friendship, possibly never to escape. Your only hope of not watching her have sex with every other guy on the planet except you—is to stop being a friend and fast.
10 Signs You’re NOT the Boyfriend
And never will be! Don’t be biased and refuse this brother on brother discipline, son. You will regret it if you continue to notice these signs but refuse to do anything about it.
She tells you what a nice guy and a good friend you are.
She jokes about or outright encourages you to date other people. She also talks about dating other people or someday getting married to her ideal man.
She never dresses up for you. She doesn’t care what you think of her appearance.
She never lets you pay. She may even pay for you out of pity.
She doesn’t try to project sexy, or “best”. She’s simply zoning out, preoccupied, and not thinking about you at all.
She always talks to you comfortably. A good thing, right? Wrong! That means no awkward silences. No sexual attraction. At all.
She won’t take photos with you, out of fear of being “connected.” She won’t do anything that remotely suggests to onlookers that the two of you are dating.
She finds the thought of you as a boyfriend cute, silly, funny or insulting.
She never talks about dating with you...at all. Her social life is unknown to you.
She never says anything deep in her emails or chats. Typed dialog should be suggestive, deep and personal. If it’s safe and respectable, you have a new “friend”.
A moment of silence. You have been friend zoned!
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