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Posted on :2013-04-05 in

It’s no fun going through life with a sneaking suspicion that your lover is cheating on you. You can’t really enjoy your time together with a thought like that on your mind.

 

But you hate to wrongly accuse an innocent person, either. If you don’t want to confront your lover just yet, be observant as you look for some telltale signs of cheating.

 

Indifference

When your lover no longer takes an interest in what you say or do and acts as if he doesn’t even care whether you’re alive, your partner is displaying indifference. An indifferent partner is not emotionally invested in you. One reason for this is your sweetie is invested in someone else. Even if the emotional disconnect is not because of an affair, this indifference signals a problem with the relationship. If your partner feels nothing for you and has seemingly given up completely on having an emotional bond with you, your relationship might be over.


Top 10 Signs to Identify That Your Lover is Cheating on You

Secretiveness

If you ask your honey about where she has been and you only get the sketchiest of details, something might be up. Be especially suspicious if your lover says she was someplace that you later found out was untrue. There is usually only one reason for a person’s inability to explain whereabouts. The same goes for your lover being constantly unavailable when you call or traveling more than usual without a good explanation. If the times your lover is unavailable follow a certain pattern, be suspicious. After all, she probably needs to coordinate schedules to carry on an affair. Leaving the room to take a private phone call should send up another red flag, as is a new privacy about the phone in general. If she once left the phone out on the table but now must keep it on her person at all times, that might mean trouble.

 

Distance

If your lover doesn’t call or text you like he used to, he might be calling or texting someone else. The same goes for his cancelling plans you’ve made. He might be talking with and spending time with someone else. Another red flag occurs when your honey becomes insensitive to your obvious disappointment in another cancelled plan. If he is looking forward to spending that time with someone else, your disappointment probably won’t matter too much. Also, note whether he ever invites you anywhere anymore. Chances are he has not sworn off companionship completely, meaning he is spending time with someone else.

 

Independence

When people have an affair, they are not necessarily ready to leave their mate. This is often the case with a lover who suddenly becomes more independent, doing things without you that you used to do together. If you are used to accompanying your honey places and making plans for future outings and this behavior stops, your mate might be doing those things with someone else. A suddenly independent person is usually waiting for you to leave or is happy to lead this sort of double life.

 

A New Look

When your lover takes a renewed interest in her appearance and changes it for the better, it could just be because she was inspired by a makeover she saw on TV. Or, it could be an attempt to impress her new love interest. There’s an easy way to tell which one is happening with your partner: If she is excited to share her new look with you, you probably have nothing to worry about. But if she just changes her look on her own, without asking for your opinion or mentioning the change to you, the change is probably not for your benefit. The same is true if she puts a lot of effort into her look when she says she is only running to the store or doing some other type of errand.

 

Always Busy

If work suddenly picks up and your lover is working overtime many nights and traveling more, ask for more details about the job, especially if this sort of extra work is unusual. Using work as an excuse to cover time spent having an affair is one of the most common excuses people use to explain unexplainable time. Another common excuse people use is saying they going to the gym. Your sweetie might be on a new health kick, or this might just be another excuse to cover where he’s really going. Suggest that you work out with him and gauge his reaction.

 

Gives Cagey Answers

If you ask your sweetie a question and she hesitates to answer or uses another stalling tactic like repeating the question back to you, pay attention. She might be trying to think of a good story to tell you. You have a right to know, for example, why she was out past midnight. If you ask and you get some sort of defensive, smart-alecky answer such as asking if you are her parent or something, be suspicious, especially if revealing this information came freely in the past.

Gains a New “Friend”

If your lover starts mentioning having a new friend and talks about this person quite a bit, your antennae should go up, especially if you never get to meet this friend. This goes double if you know the friend is of the opposite sex. It’s possible to have friends of the opposite sex, but if your honey is meeting this friend for dinner and never brings you along, you would be in your rights to smell a rat.

 

Increased Internet Use

Is your honey increasingly on social networking sites? Some of that is purely innocent. But people flirt online all the time. This can get out of hand, and the next thing you know, the online connection turns into a real one. Other cagey online behavior includes clicking away from the site every time you come in the room. If your honey is staying up late a lot to use the computer, you have to wonder what he is using it for.

 

Decreased Affection

When your relationship was new, it was probably filled with passion. It’s natural for passion to wane when the relationship matures, but if it declines significantly, it could mean your honey is sharing that passion with someone else. If your partner is reluctant to kiss you and doesn’t show you any affection, it could be because that affection is being reserved for someone else.



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