Are you a man who can’t seem to find a good girlfriend? Do you always seem to go out with the wrong type of women that just leave you broken hearted? Or perhaps you are a woman wondering what exactly is it men are looking for. Either way, the following list of the top 10 qualities of a good girlfriend may be of help to you.
No one wants to feel like they are being suffocated in a relationship. Independence is one of the major qualities that a man should be looking for in a girlfriend, because while it is nice to be needed sometimes, being someone’s emotional pillar at all times is exhausting. Besides that, independence is just incredible. A woman who can handle her own problems, who knows what she wants, and who fills her life with things that make her happy means she will be fun to be around.
We’re not suggesting that older is better, but we do want to emphasize that women who have had plenty of life experience, or at least a willingness to try new things and discuss them, are so much more interesting than the typical “wallflower” type! Women who live life to its fullest have their own stories to tell, her own unique life lessons, and are really able to bring something special to the relationship. As opposed to a bratty “girl” who demands the man keep her entertained.
Be busy, as much as possible. Men like the thrill of the hunt, so if a woman is always there, always ready for a date, with her schedule wide open…it’s just not as much fun. If you have nothing going on in your life (male or female, for that matter) this means you need to work on yourself and your future goals. Figure out what you want to be doing in life other than pursuing a relationship. Take some classes, volunteer, get a new hobby, travel and so on.
Maturity is always a good quality. Even if your date acts silly on weekends, a lack of drama and a good sensibility are always pluses. You want to have as little drama as possible happening in your life, if you truly want the relationship to survive. Simply put, you want to be a whole person ready for trust, commitment and understanding. A healthy relationship starts with two happy people coming together, minus the mind games, minus the false alarms.
Of course, all guys want their girlfriends to be beautiful, and tastes for beauty run in all directions. Physical attraction is a driving motivator for many men, but when looking to make a girl into a girlfriend there are some key things to look for that may make you happier in the long run. Is she hygienic? Does she like looking good not only for you, but for herself as well? Does she dress in a way you can handle? Sure it is nice to be with a sexy girl, but if she lets it all hang out all the time, are you okay with that in the long run?
Confidence is damn important, and that’s whether we’re talking male or female. So stop putting yourself down! When a man sees a woman, he isn’t being as judgmental or noticing negative little details. So stop pointing out your flaws, as those flaws (hips, lips, a few extra pounds, crazy hair, etc.) may be the very thing he loves about you!
What does good taste mean? It basically means the difference between a girl who is elegant and one who just fakes and flaunts her body. A woman will get a lot of dates if she goes on exhibits her physical beauty, but more often than not, she will find boys looking for fun, not a serious relationship. Sexy means a little bit of cleavage, or a little bit of leg; trampy is showing off everything you have with little to nothing left to the imagination.
A woman may be super sweet to her man early on, but if she is rude to others in general this is a red flag. In fact, this warning suggests the guy is going to have a long road ahead of him, if she’s this mean to non-family members! Naturally, not everyone will get along with everyone, but if she hates every single one of his friends (without good reason), then imagine what that relationship is going to be like in ten years.
Be a Team Player
This sounds like a job orientation, right? Still, the “team player” quality is a good one. It’s one step beyond “friendliness” in that it speaks to the level of trust you have in your relationship. For instance, do you view the relationship as a two-person effort? Do you make allowances, or “compromises” for the sake of your happiness together? Those willing to haul their own weight, and even pick up the slack for a partner on some occasion, is what makes a good relationship into a great one. However, team efforts require balance. It’s a delicate process of give and take, and the best way to scout out a girlfriend’s potential is to observe how hard of a worker she is, how supportive she is and how much effort she really puts forth to making the courtship (and eventually the relationship) work.
Happiness can be hard to achieve for many, especially those looking to fill the void with material things. One of the top traits in a girlfriend is a positive attitude, and a general leaning towards happiness. Those women that are able to be happy with what they have will be pleasant to be around and can even help their partners to stay positive as well.
If a man can find these ten good qualities all in one woman, then she is quite the catch! Women wondering what men want can look over this list and see that many of these traits are also what they are looking for in a mate as well. Be the type of person that you want to meet and happiness is sure to follow.
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