Falling In Love With a Married Man...
Have you found yourself loving a married man? You are definitely not the first and won’t be the last woman to do so, but the situation is always difficult.
Maintaining your composure in light of your emotions can be pretty challenging, yet doing so is possible if you take some time to evaluate your feelings.
Let’s be honest, with more than half of marriages ending in divorce, there is a decent chance you will have a shot at your guy – but what do you do in the meantime?
Here are seven tips to help you get your head on straight:
Focusing on you might seem like an odd place to start when discussing your feelings toward someone else, but you must make an honest appraisal of what it is that drives you. Is it the temptation of forbidden love? Are you getting a charge out of the competition? Identifying the source of your desires is a good first step, because you will quickly figure out if they are true or not.
Stay Under Wraps
In the early stages, the best thing you can do is keep your attraction to yourself. Nobody wants to be “the other woman” – it rarely ends up being good for either of you long-term – and the less obvious you are about your inclinations, the better.
Know When He’s Really Flirting
Men – and women, regardless of the stereotype – love to exchange playful banter, especially when it’s with someone attractive. For the most part, this is harmless and means little more than he enjoys your company. However, if you can read a little more into his responses, then you may find he’s on the prowl, too.
Don’t Celebrate When There’s Trouble
Every marriage has bad days. Sometimes there are bad weeks, bad months, even bad years. Avoid the temptation to gloat if you see things aren’t going well with his wife. If he is a good guy – one worthy of your affection – he is probably doing his best to make things work. Acknowledge the effort instead of dancing because you might have a chance.
If you are constantly hanging around him, nosing through the details of his life in search of something to give you hope, before long he will be awfully annoyed by your presence. Regardless of what you might think, it is always better for the woman to be pursued – and the only way for that to happen is if you are a somewhat unknown entity.
Take Care in Voicing Your Thoughts
Every fiber of your being may be wishing you could tell him how you feel, but that doesn’t mean it is the right thing to do. Instead of spewing forth every promise of devotion you have in your heart, offer compliments and encouragement. A guy loves to have a supportive woman in his life, which will make you all the more attractive if he doesn’t have one at home.
Understand It Might Not Work Out
Though it can be tough to accept, he has committed his life to someone else. As badly as you might want that to be false and have him for yourself, you must turn your attention to someone else who is available. Plus, by going after a man who is single, you have a great shot of having someone decide to choose you above all else – not coming in second place.
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