One of the enduring mysteries of the universe is how to know what a woman wants. No matter how much research is done and books are written, it seems there is always a communication gap between guys and gals – but does there have to be? Is all that gets lost in translation more a function of a mutual inability to speak the same language we’re unable to fix?
The truth, despite what some people might tell you, is that no man will ever completely be able to figure out what a woman wants. Sure, with some time and attention, you might be pretty good most of the time, but there will always be some mystery. So long as your wife or girlfriend doesn’t expect you to read her mind – she doesn’t, even if it sometimes seems like she does – you will be in pretty good shape.
Here are three keys to help you out:
- Listen to What She Talks About
If you are worth your salt, you know that really taking in what your woman says is a great key to what is on her mind at the moment. What does she say is great about other relationships? Does she bring up things her friend’s boyfriend is doing? These are subconscious clues – or downright hints – about areas she would like to see you step up. This step, above all, will do the most toward helping you understand what she wants.
- Look In the Shopping Cart
No, this doesn’t give you permission to go snooping around your sweetie’s next trip to the local mall or run to the grocery store. The shopping cart, in this case, is a metaphor for what is important to her on a larger scale. Let’s say you notice she has picked up some new sports bras and joined a running club. It’s clear that she wants to get fit, so how can you support that? It might be as simple as asking how her workout that afternoon went or it could mean getting up off the couch to get some miles in yourself.
Either way, her preferences or habits are clues into what she feels needs to be addressed, offering you ways to help boost her confidence as she tackles those challenges.
- Ask A Lot of Questions
It seems like such a simple tactic, but the fact of the matter is that you sometimes the best way to get answers is to ask questions. Now, there is no reason for you to strap your woman into a chair and just keep firing away until you know everything you want – in some countries, that’s called torture. What you want to do is take mental notes as you talk with her. Use the opportunity to see what her feelings are on a variety of issues.
If, say, you ask what she would like to be doing in five years and she replies, “I don’t know,” it could be because she’s wondering whether she will have children or shifted careers. On the other hand, she might talk about obtaining a management-level position, which gives you the opportunity to help her scale the heights she is driven to reach.
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