No matter how great an evening goes, you always come to the front door wondering if it is fine to kiss on the first date.
There is an awkward moment when you arrive in which the two of you make small talk and quietly ask yourself whether it’s the right time – but does there have to be?
For most of us, the desire to have a more romantic touch at the end of the night is natural, yet acting on it is a whole other can of worms.
Here are six questions that can help you make the right move:
What have you done before?
It might sound a bit ridiculous, but what is your reputation? Have you always planted a wet one on your date? Is that common knowledge? You should by no means just do what you think is expected of you, but your history is a good indication of what you like – and, therefore, a solid guide of what you will choose in the future.
What are you comfortable with?
There are a lot of factors that play into a goodnight kiss, but ultimately it comes down to what you feel is appropriate. If you are just getting over someone, for instance, you might play your cards a little closer to the vest than if you hadn’t been out on a date for a while. Unsettled emotions – like animosity towards your ex – will play with your decision making, so beware.
What is the intent?
You may feel like you don’t really know the person you’ve been out with, but you have an instinctive idea of what is going on in his or her head, believe it or not. Over the course of your time together, you have subconsciously formed opinions that are surprisingly accurate, which is why you are probably correct in assuming he’s trying to get himself invited in or she is attempting to make someone jealous.
What did you think of the date?
Chemistry is a major factor when you are considering kissing on the first date. If the two of you chatted so much at dinner that your entrées got cold, you clearly have an attraction driven by something more than just biology. Maybe a smooch isn’t a bad idea. On the other hand, if things haven’t gone well, you might run back inside as quickly as possible – nobody rewards a dog for bad behavior.
What is the next step?
Let’s assume that things have gone well. Do you want to see your companion again soon? If so, a delicate but tempting kiss is a great way to keep yourself in his or her mind in the meantime. When you press your lips together and leave a little bit to the imagination, chances are you will be scheduling a second date before you walk away.
What do you want to do?
If you are still stuck after asking the first five questions, then the last one is pretty simple: What feels right? In these situations, trusting your gut with the decision is always a great move. Believe it or not, your first response is probably the one you will be happiest with, whether you end up in a romantic lip lock or otherwise.
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