How to Survive a Date When There’s No Chemistry
When you are out looking for the right fish out of all those in the sea, you are bound to have plenty of first encounters of the bad kind.
Through nobody’s fault (unless you count the people that set you up), sometimes you end up having to figure out how to survive a date when there’s no chemistry.
It’s a tragedy – and sometimes even feels like a nightmare – when things don’t go as well as you might have hoped, but that doesn’t mean it has to be. You can make it through by following these helpful hints:
1. Don’t Fake Interest
Now, there are certain situations where being polite is absolutely required – you should listen to the other person’s stories intently, even if it’s about breeding a race of super-strength kittens who can take over the world.
Avoid the temptation to extend that bit of civility into a long discussion about how you would like to become an investor in the project – unless you’re really thinking about doing so, that is. The deeper you go into your date’s odd ideas, the more it appears you agree with them, leaving you in a rough spot when the time comes to part ways.
2. Be Straightforward
Like it or not, some people might want to pry into your life from the get-go. There is, undoubtedly, an unwritten collection of rules about what is correct to talk about on the first date.
Not everyone understands that, and the individuals that are unaware often end up asking questions about strange or intimate details long before you have developed the trust to share them.
Stand your ground with a firm answer: “I appreciate your keen interest in me, but I’m uncomfortable discussing that considering we’ve just met.” In most cases, this will shut them down immediately and possibly salvage the experience for both of you.
3. Find Some Common Ground
Sometimes the problem isn’t that your date is talking too much, but just the opposite. People who are painfully shy often have difficulty opening up about even the most superficial information.
It may take some work, but finding something to talk about – even if it’s just a particular actor you both like – can at least make the evening much more enjoyable, though you might not have a love connection.
4. Savor The Occasion
Are you at a movie you really wanted to see? Do you have a table at a great restaurant? Finding the positives when the company you’re keeping isn’t all that appealing will at least allow you to get something out of it all. Focus on the meal you are eating with particular attention so you can have a good word for the people who got you into this mess.
This, by no means, is an excuse for sliding out the bathroom window to escape, yet you are well within your rights to excuse yourself. Be courteous to your date, say that you just don’t seem to feel a spark, then step away to freedom.
In the end, it’s best to avoid wasting each other’s time – and as long as you are kind before walking off, you can add it the bad date to your “horror stories” until you meet the right person.
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