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How to overcome the fear of talking to attractive girls

Posted on :2012-05-26 in

Of all the obstacles a man can face in the course of his lifetime, starting a conversation with a woman is among the most challenging.

 

When you learn to overcome the fear of talking to attractive girls, it seems like you can handle anything the world might throw at you. It’s not easy though, is it?

 

Walking up to a beautiful lass almost always seems to tie up your tongue and send your heart pumping through your chest, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

 

Before the next time you head up to the one that catches your eye, keep these tips in mind and you’ll have won half the battle.

 

How to Overcome the Fear of Talking to Attractive Girls

Take a Deep Breath

OK, let’s take a minute to be honest: walking up to someone you desperately want to talk with can be nerve-wracking. You are probably plotting out the perfect opening line, wondering how your hair looks and hoping you smell attractive – not to mention doing your best not to trip or do anything clumsy. All of this means you are charged up by the time you reach your intended target, likely speaking at light speed (if you’re able to get words out at all). As you make your approach, do your best to breathe deeply and calm down. Focus on slowing it all to what seems like a crawl so your brain stops feeling like it is barely treading water. You will instantly have more confidence, which will bear itself out in your conversation with the object of your affection.

 

Find Some Common Ground

Once you have exchanged the opening pleasantries, learning each other’s names and occupations, begin to ask more probing questions to find out about the gorgeous woman whose attention you’ve gained. If there is anything that’s universally true, it is that we like to talk about ourselves and our opinions. Though you might disagree with something she believes – and that’s completely fine, so long as you do so respectfully – you will open more doors to other conversation by finding similar interests. Ask about her hobbies and other interests outside of work, then describe how you two match up. If, for example, she enjoys running in her spare time, talk about your favorite trails and see what hers are.

 

Mind Your Posture

It might seem something your mother would remind you of, but the way you stand before, during and after the conversation will go a long way toward showing her how self-assured and interested you are. When you approach, walk tall but relaxed and make eye contact with a slight smile. As she talks, lean in slightly to listen to her answers, nodding as you understand and repeating things for clarification. After you step away, make sure to give her one last grin and go off with just as much certainty as you came over with.

 

Don’t Linger Too Long

Since it’s the first time you are talking to this lovely lady, keep in mind she probably has some other things to accomplish. See if you can secure her phone number for a low-key date sometime, even suggesting a cup of coffee or people watching at a public park in a few days. By this time, she will have let her guard down and you’ll have a great shot at a real night on the town.

 

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