How to Overcome Obsession With Your 'Ex'
It’s natural that you like your ex. You actually liked your ex so much that you decided to take it a step forward.
There are some traits in your ex that appeals to you. But when a relationship does not work out, it’s better to let go. Here’s how --
Remember why you decided to break-up: Any relationship will have tender moments that are cherished. But then there has been another side to the coin too. The bad phases between the two of you that made you decide to drift apart. Concentrate on all the hurt that you had to bear.
Get rid of all personal belongings and memoirs of your Ex: Memories are constant reminders of moments that are best tucked away. Be it your photo together, or a personal belonging of your ex – they just keep bringing back the memories of your togetherness. Get rid of them as a first step to blocking the memories.
Go out and meet friends and new people: Our initial reaction after any mishap is hibernation. We brood, we feel depressed. We block all positive energies from our life. Come out of such a vicious cycle. Go out, meet friends and let the sunshine into your life.
Get active and involved in hobbies: It is simple – get so busy that you have no time to think about your ex. Get so exhausted at the end of the day that all you’d pine for is sleeping like a log. Also, doing something you like will make you merry.
Differentiate if you are actually missing the person or just the sense of belonging : Sometimes we cannot differentiate whether we are missing a person, or just the sense of being into a relationship. It’s only human to crave for a companion. Loneliness is something we all are scared of. Empty moments bring back memories no matter how much we try to shut them out.
Remember your Ex isn’t the only person you’d come across in your life: Sometimes, when a relationship ends, we feel the world around us has collapsed – even when it is us who initiated the break-up. If you haven’t been exploring the dating scene for a while, you’d feel apprehensive and a little short of confidence. But remember, your ex isn’t the only person in the world who is compatible with you. With time, you shall make new beginnings.
Do not hide the hurt: Sometimes talking to someone clears the head, helps you rationalize and even help to sink in raw facts. You may even consider writing down your feelings. Writing, talking – venting your feelings in any way you are comfortable in -- somehow adds objectivity to the intangible emotions. Sorting them then becomes easier.
One who is not interested in you does not deserve your interest either: Evoke your ego, sense of pride. Realize that if your ex treasured you, you two would have been together, and not apart.
Holding on to someone from the past will only hinder your moving forward. Take a deep breath. Inhale fresh air. And exhale the stale obsession completely.
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