Those eyes, once so magnetic and thirsty, now seem lazy, distracted and even blasé. What happened to your man, the same man who once wrote love poetry and acted like the horniest of toads just to get your attention? Unfortunately, losing attraction is a common problem among couples. It doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner has stopped loving you or that he is looking to cheat.
Taking Eroticism for Granted
One common problem among couples is that both partners become accustomed to a routine early on in the relationship. The erotic thoughts and feelings associated with that “first time” were so intense; they determined this was the routine needed to reach orgasm and fulfillment. However, the problem with this line of thinking is that familiarity breeds contempt. The routines that were once erotic and amazing, probably years and years ago have been so overdone the mind and the body is craving new sensations.
This doesn’t mean you have to cheat, or that you have to resort to wife swapping. There are plenty of ways you can spice up your marriage and win back your husband’s devoted attention. All it takes is some imagination and an open mind.
Perfecting the Look
We don’t tend to think of marriage as sexy, and truthfully “marriage” in the classical sense (as in living with someone 24-7, children, finances, family and the like) is not sexy. It’s the opposite of what you encountered during courtship, when you saw each other at your “best.” So, the first order will be to get out of the routine of marriage and back into the pattern of dating each other.
What did you do when you used to date? You fixed yourself up, you worried about how your partner would view you based on makeup, a certain dress or a style. You were probably more active in exercise, and perhaps moderate in dieting. While some of these flaws can’t change overnight, it is very easy to get dolled up, get a makeover from a salon, and go out with your hubby on a real life date. (Make sure the kids have a babysitter so that you don’t worry)
Work on Showcasing Your Personality
Another pattern of single behavior is when we showcase our best qualities, as opposed to marriage, when we tend to be our true selves—flaws, perks, quirks, warts and all. Rather than insisting upon “natural” behavior, why not give your husband a bit of fun by acting like your “date personality?” Did you used to laugh a lot? Did you used to flirt shamelessly? Did you use to project an aura of mystery? Try that again and find his attraction again.
You can also pique his curiosity by taking up new hobbies, talking about new things, and, of course, being more sexually aggressive. Wives oftentimes misunderstand a husband’s boredom of initiating sex with a lack of attraction. You may be surprised to know how randy the old fella can still get if you give him some encouragement.
Don’t give up! Marriage is a blessing, and if you separate marriage from “dating” your partner, you will experience a great pick me up.
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