You are correct in assuming “something is wrong”, even though your wife is probably not going to admit it. Whether you feel dead in the bedroom, unappreciated, or that you’re walking on eggshells, one thing is clear: you are no longer with the happy single girl you once courted. An angry wife has taken her place! What did you do wrong? Is it too late to make things right?
Is it Short-Term or Long-Term Disdain?
The first order is in determining whether a recent incident is behind this awkward tension, or whether your marriage is simply going through a slump. If it’s the former, then it’s a relatively easy fix. You have to talk with your wife and discover the problem. She might not tell you flat out what the transgression was, but she will definitely give you clues. Make it a point to talk to her and ask her how she feels. If you create a relaxed and non-threatening environment, she will eventually open up to you.
When the Marriage is in a Rut
The second problem is a more dangerous one, and this one involves marital “wear.” It’s not anyone’s fault necessarily, it’s just that your wife is either feeling un-attracted to you, or feels that you are not attracted to her, or is simply bored of the same routines the two of you keep. This is fairly common in families, since child rearing is taxing on a marriage.
And you can’t blame your wife for feeling this way, since you can probably relate to how she’s feeling. Wasn’t it much more enjoyable back when you were courting? Back when you were dating someone for the first time—a new and exciting sensation?
The cure for marital wear is to simply stop performing the same routines and to open your mind to new experiences. If your sex life has been in a rut, then cease all the usual activity. If your wife seems to resent the everyday routines you have established then stop doing them. Invent new patterns.
This doesn’t mean that you have to be “spontaneous” about it. In fact, arranging date time (as opposed to playing it by ear) is the best thing you can do. Just avoid the usual routines (dinner, a movie, and bed) and mix your night up with something new and exciting.
Show Her That You Still Appreciate Her
It is also quite possible that your wife feels neglected and perhaps even taken for granted. This may be the result of your cold behavior, or may be totally imagined. Regardless, she is eagerly awaiting validation and appreciation for her role in the family and it’s something you should be giving her every day. Show her that you care about her, as well as the efforts she puts forth.
If you already do reassure her everyday then make it a point to surprise her and whisk her away for a whole day of fun and leisure. What you really want to do is make your wife feel secure—that the marriage is strong, sexy and still sizzling after all these years!
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