The game of love can be incredibly tricky to play. With so many different people out there, having a grip on the ten ways to know if he is flirting might make the difference between a solid romance and a missed connection.
Once you commit these simple gestures to memory, making a match might be a lot easier than you thought.
Just don’t get caught up analyzing every move – you might miss all the fun of dating!
No matter where you go on the planet, the smile is the universal sign of satisfaction. Disarming as it is, when placed on the face of a lovestruck guy, it’s a good indicator he is trying to make a move. If he can’t seem to stop grinning, chances are he is subconsciously flirting – our ancestors recognized smiles as signs of friendship, you know?
Making Sure He Looks His Best
All over the animal kingdom, the male in a species is arrayed with a particularly attractive coat or brightly-colored feathers to attract a mate. Though your guy is wearing clothes and (probably) talking to you, he is still going to make sure he is the most appealing option in the room. He’ll do a lot of little things – making sure his hair is in the right place, straightening his tie and so forth – to “preen.” He’s civilized, of course, but he will act like a peacock in the wild.
Drinking It All In
Though your guy will listen intently to anything you say, his eyes will wander periodically as you talk to take in the whole picture. Far more than women, men are visual creatures and cannot help looking at a beautiful woman over and over again. Much like a gal who finds a great deal in the clearance section, there is an element of “I can’t believe what I’m seeing” that will let you know if he is flirting.
An Open Stance
Nonverbal communication is a major part of making a play for someone you are hoping to date, regardless of gender. In any situation, one way to be sure another person is tuned in to what you have to say is his or her posture. Is he facing you? More specifically, is he standing with his arms at his side or even behind himself? It might not seem like much, but it’s a positional cue that he is welcoming you – literally putting down his defenses by dropping his hands.
Ever noticed how, when the boss tells a joke in a meeting, everyone laughs and looks around to make sure they are demonstrating they have a similar sense of humor? Those moments are part of the human quest for approval. We naturally try to find common ground with those we are attempting to impress. If you are amongst a group of people and someone tells a joke, you will notice him checking to see if you find it funny. It’s a little way he is flirting, as if to say “See? We like the same things!”
Shrinking the Space Gap
Though there can be cultural and familial influences on personal space, breaking the barrier between two people is a big key to flirting. The more attracted to you he is, the sooner he will try to find a way to touch you in some way – a light tap on the shoulder can mean much more than you would imagine. Gently resting his hand against your elbow to get your attention, in particular, is a common first step.
Getting a Good Spot
Let’s say, for the sake of argument, the two of you are at a large party with friends. How close is he at any one point? Is he right beside you? Hardly ever out of sight? A man can walk a fine line between flirting and stalking, but most guys know the appropriate way to ensure they can be nearby without crowding in. Think of it like this: he is chasing you without forcing you to run.
Both genders tilt themselves toward the person they are interested in when the conversation gets going – it’s a natural way of displaying how engaged we are in communicating different ideas. However, when there is a physical attraction thrown into the mix, it takes on a whole different complexion. One of the best ways to know if he is flirting is by judging how much he leans in as you talk. It’s a subconscious method to making a conversation more private, as if he is telling everyone else in the room “This is just between us.”
Making Himself Big
You might think it’s a bit over the top to describe him as an animal, but there are certain characteristics to flirting that resemble what happened when men and women were traveling around the prehistoric countryside. If you were a cavewoman, what would be important to you? The ability of your mate to provide food, protect you and give you children who are more likely to survive. One of the subconscious clues he is pursuing you is how tall he stands, as well as the “strength” of his posture. Though it’s not quite as pronounced as the posing done by bodybuilders, he will find a way to show you his muscles somehow – it’s the caveman in him coming out.
Thinking – Or at Least Pretending To
How nervous are you when a guy comes up to talk with you? Does it give you butterflies? Are you a little intimidated? Whether you are or not, rest assured that he is very anxious about making a great first impression on you. You may notice he takes the classic thinker’s pose – hand on his chin with a finger across his lips – and wonder why, but you might be surprised to know it is a subtle coping mechanism for the nervousness attached to talking with you. The more you see him touching his face, the more he is attempting to comfort himself without seeming obvious.
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