If there’s one thing watching NBC’s “The Office” has taught us, it’s that lots of people that work together “hook up”. And even the movie “Secretary”, also starring James Spader, reflected this notion, all the while teaching us an invaluable lesson: your creepy boss probably wants to sleep with you.
However, a giggly office romance is no laughing matter. Make one wrong move and your love life and career could be completely wrecked simultaneously. Before taking such a risk, admittedly, one of the most dangerous dating games, you should have a very good idea of what needs to happen before an office romance can be explored. Let’s start at the beginning.
You Must Separate “Play Hard” and “Work Hard”
Just like church and state, and tacos and ice cream, business and pleasure must be kept separate if everyone is to stay happy and not create conflict. While the fantasy is always to combine work and relationships, in reality, you must keep the two worlds separate, even if you are planning on asking someone out.
You must ensure that dating is okay with company policy and if you want to keep the relationship a secret (for a limited time), you must go out of your way to keep things discreet. Now this is not to suggest that you should only talk about TPS reports, business plans and client meetings while on your date. Don’t bring your work home with you, or your home to your work.
Give Your Date/Coworker Some Space
Your natural instincts, at first, are to smother your crush with affection and attention. However, as you progress your lovey-dovey instincts can quickly evolve into terror, once you realize your date is everywhere! He’s at home! He’s at work! He’s calling you! Or, she’s calling you and giving you the look whenever you cross paths during working hours.
The only solution here is to give your date plenty of space at work (so he/she can get things done and not slow down the program) and at home, just in case your date feels smothered at home. Don’t conclude that a serious relationship means smothering someone and forcing them to fall for you. Give this person time away from you, time for hobbies, for recuperation and for the time to “miss you.”
Do Not Let Personal Feelings Hinder Your Job
This applies in a variety of scenarios, but the simple message is clear: do not make your office date choose between making you happy and keeping the peace at work. Work is no place for drama, and unfortunately, badly organized office romances can end with big fights and problems with partiality and objectivity. Always be honest. In fact, it’s easier in the long run to make peace at home than it is to smooth things over with everyone you work with.
No Relationship Drama During Hours!
Does this really need to be said? Well, apparently it does, because some hot-tempered lovers still succeed in making colossal fools of themselves and bringing their relationship baggage to work. For goodness sake, if you’re going to have a screaming match, do it outside your apartment like normal drama queens. Don’t ruin your professional reputation. Keep things discreet and you’ll have no problem in keeping love and work in check.
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