How to Get Rid of Memories of the Past
When you are going through a tough time or have had a bad experience, there is nothing you’d like more than knowing how to get rid of memories of the past.
After a break-up, the biggest challenge is erasing your former love from your mind, right?
No matter how hard you try, the movie screen in your mind keeps replaying the same images over and over – but you can stop it! Wondering how you will pull that off? These five hints will help you on the way to recovery:
Remove the Artifacts
First and foremost, you must take down all the photos and box up the loose items that bring these memories up. Yes, at the beginning, everything will seem to make you recall the past.
Start with the things you know cause problems – gifts, pictures, etc. – and then wait for a few days before taking down anything else. In the early stages, you won’t need any help remembering, but in due time these objects will do more harm than good until you are fully healed.
Create Some Distance
Regardless of how much you would like to talk to that person one more time, it is best to avoid them as best you can. This doesn’t mean being impolite, per se, just that you will make an effort to stay away from places you know he or she will be, as well as spots which were important in your relationship. A psychological buffer between you and the memories is a major key to getting rid of them.
Practice Regular Forgiveness
When you are hurting, it is incredibly difficult to imagine a time when you will be able to let go of the blame your former love rightly (or wrongly) deserves. Finding a way to forgive is a key step in figuring out how to get rid of memories of the past.
Though it will take a lot of effort – and you will certainly fall short sometimes – working to release the person from the prison of your mind will ultimately serve you far more than you could ever guess. (It is truly a gift you give yourself.)
Talk with a Professional
Some wounds are really deep, whether we want to admit it or not. In these cases, you may want to keep a journal of all you are feeling and then spend some time talking with a licensed professional. In order to pry open the recesses of your subconscious and release those memories, sometimes you need an experienced hand to ask the right questions.
Schedule an appointment and unload all your anger, sadness and jealousy. You will feel as though a weight comes off your shoulders immediately.
Make New Ones
There’s an old saying that goes, “nothing helps you get over the last one like the next one” – and it’s true. While you shouldn’t rush into a new relationship immediately to help you heal, when you go about creating fresh experiences you will give your brain input to process.
Just like a muscle, your memories are strongest when worked regularly. If you are doing other things and enjoying a variety of restaurants, you can’t allow the past to come up – and that’s as good as gone.
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