First love is the most special feeling of one’s life. It's when someone special comes into your life to spread the magic of love. It's when you meet that person who teaches you the true meaning of love.
A majestic experience that creates innumerable memories of those little moments of love. First love is nurtured with immense care and affection. Every one wants their first love to become their last love. But unfortunately, sometimes, this doesn't turn out to be true. As lovers spend more and more time in each other's company, many issues start cropping up.
These issues get so much aggravated and heated up that they ultimately lead to a painful state of breakup. A breakup doesn't signal the end of life. It's time when you need to collect yourself, be strong and move on in life. Read the following points that help you with various ways of getting over your first love.
The primary step in helping yourself get over your first love starts with an acknowledgement of the fact that yes, it’s over! Come out of your utopia to accept this bitter truth. Once you make yourself believe that he/she has left you and would never come back, only then you can proceed further.
Put an end to all kinds of communication
This is a tough move but you'll have to make it no matter how harsh it may be for you. You'll still be feeling that you've lost the one who understood you the most, cared for you the most and was your best friend. It's painful to realize that but you certainly cannot be friends with someone you loved in the past else you'll always be reminded of his/her memories which will make it very difficult for you to get over him/her. Cut off “all” kinds of communication with your ex if you really wanna axe his/her memories.
No more hooking up with your ex
Don't forget the 'out of sight, out of mind' principle because it really works. Don't hook up with your ex at all. Let him/her be out of your sight completely. Gradually, he/she will be out of mind as well.
Realize his/her negatives
A breakup is never a one sided affair. Recollect the reasons why both of your broke up. Remember all of his/her negatives and bad qualities because of which you and ultimately, the relationship suffered. This practice will make you hate him/her for the wrongs that he/she did to you. It's a phase of heartbreak but you'll need to be strong. If you both broke up because your lover cheated on you, hate him for being unfaithful and assure yourself that you'll be blessed with someone who'll love you with all his/her trust and loyalty. There's a reason behind every single thing that happens in this universe. Prepare yourself to be gifted with what you truly deserve.
Share with your family or friends; You're not alone
Don't try to get through this phase of sorrow all alone. If you have good friends, share your grief with them. True friends will give you strength and good advice that will comfort you and help you recover much sooner. Talk to your friends and family about this and vent out the pain and frustration. They are your own people and will cope up with you by being understanding and helpful.
You will be loved, truly
Remember it's just a bad day and not a bad life in the entirety. Breaking up with your ex was a bad experience but that doesn't guarantee the non-occurrence of any good incident in the future ever. Make yourself believe that you will find love again and this time you'll find the one who'll love you deeply, someone who'll be with you forever. Prepare yourself for receiving the beautiful gift of love from the one whom God has made for you.
Indulge in activates that make you feel better
This is a delicate phase because the heart's wounded. Speed up the healing process by indulging in activities that interest you and make you feel better. Take up some hobbies that you like or get yourself a makeover done. Pamper yourself, love yourself because it wasn't your mistake that led to such a state. It's his/her loss because he/she lost someone who loved him/her with so much purity.
Take good care of yourself. At times, you may find it difficult to sleep, eat or concentrate on things. But it's normal. Don't push yourself too hard to be fine too soon. Wounds of the heart take a little more time that others to heal. So, take time!
I know it's easier said than done, but you'll need to be strong. The best person who can help you at this time is you, yourself and no one else. Others will support you but the initiative to get out of this state will have to be taken by you, only you. So, gear up my dear because you certainly deserve someone much better than your ex. Remind yourself of this quote every time you feel demotivated, “Love is a gift. If you get it try and appreciate it. But if you haven't, don't be sad. Someone, somewhere is still wrapping it for you.” You special one is still wrapping up his/her love for you. So just have patience and wait for the right one to come to you. Till then, smile and let the world know how strong you are.
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