You see a beautiful girl perched on a barstool at your local nightclub. Or a cutie pie attracts your attention at college. Or is it the sweet one at the cafe near your home? Or perhaps she is the new joiner at office? Or did you get introduced by common friends?
Whatever the situation, the crux of the matter is that you have been smitten by a girl, and you do not want the communication to snap. You want to hear her voice, talk to her, get to know her better and impress her. And so you want access to her phone number. Here comes the tricky part. Approaching her and asking her for it.
Here are a few points to keep in mind as you approach a girl to ask for her number –
Approach with confidence: Most girls like being with confident men. Well, when we say confident we do not mean over confident though. But an air of reassurance would help to calm any worries the girl may be having about sharing her number. Also, when you talk to her, meet her gaze and make eye contacts and smile pleasantly. This will create a good impression about your personality.
It’s better not to have a mediator: Be man enough to ask for her number yourself. , if you are scheming to get it done via someone and then surprise her with a call, remember, it may turn out to be an unpleasant surprise for you. She may not appreciate you for sneaking the information from someone else. So the better way to handle this is to do it yourself! In case you are still considering a middleman to help you, it will be polite of the two of you to let her know who intends to have the number.
Offer a give-n-take deal: Try giving her your number if you feel too awkward to ask for hers first. You could ask her to keep your number so that you two could remain friends and in touch. Then gently you could request her to jot down her number as well. Most girls will think a while in such a scenario before saying ‘No’.
Start with small talk: If you two have been introduced recently, start with a casual conversation. If not, start by introducing yourself. Strike a friendly atmosphere where both of you feel comfortable in each other’s company. That way she will be less reluctant to prolong this camaraderie via phone later on.
Appear trustworthy: If you are at a party or at a general gathering, do not do anything that would make your conduct unacceptable. The girl should be able to trust you first so as to share her number with you.
Promise not to misuse the information: If you have been trusted with personal information, make sure you live up to the trust. Don’t share the number with simply anyone without her consent. If you have jotted down the number somewhere take care not to drop it in any public transport or place, or simply keep it lying somewhere others may have access to.
Pledge to be a responsible person: Make her believe that you will use the number responsibly. No cranky calls at wee hours or no calling ten times in a span of an hour. The point here is that if you intend to remain her friend, it is best not to irritate or annoy her in any way.
Remember, no relationship can turn from a bud to a full bloom if the interest is single sided. And in matters of love, force is the last thing you should resort to. Not that it would help you much even if you did! So respect her decision to share (or Not to share) her number.
Cribbing and whining will further damage your image. Surely you would not like to spoil her impression of you! Yes, you may feel a little hurt and dejected for the time being. But be wise enough to overcome all that. It may so happen that if you give it a little time, things would become just the way you want it to be. If there are chances of you meeting her and letting her get to know you better, she may then feel comfortable enough to share her number with you. Good Luck!
AAPOD : 02/04/2013
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