How to Find LOVE and Keep It
The desire to love and being loved is eternal. Poets and philosophers have described love as the truest and the purest of human emotions.
Hence, many of us spend our entire life in the quest of true love. However, finding true love isn’t as easy as it sounds. Moreover, it is even harder to retain the true love when you find it.
Now, if you too are wondering how to find true love in your life here are some useful tips for you. In this write up we will also discuss how to retain true love once you find it. So, let’s begin our journey through the love lane.
We can describe our journey to find true love in three easy steps.
- Searching for the right partner.
- Falling in love.
- Retaining the love for life.
Searching for the right partner
The foundation of a successful relation is always laid upon finding your soul mate. The task however, isn’t easy. Many of us keep wondering about what signs to look for when searching for the right partner. Following are some tips to help you find your right match.
Formulate your own rules: The first rule to search for the right partner is that there is no rule. The quest for love varies between individuals and hence you will need to formulate your right ways accordingly.
Search at the right place: There is a difference between searching for true love and looking for someone to spend an evening. Many of us have the tendency to look for partners at pubs and night clubs. However, if you are looking for a lasting relationship you shouldn’t begin your search at these places. Rather, you may look for a partner who shares the same interest with you, like- your sports club, church charity group etc.
Don’t pretend: We have a tendency, especially during the young age, to act differently to attract that special person’s interest but this is entirely a wrong approach. Honesty is the key to success. If you tend to behave differently, most often it’s only infatuation and not true love. You’ll definitely like your partner to like you as you are.
Make the move: If you are sure that you like someone you may put it into action. Approach that person and speak your heart. You can also plan for an outing and ask him/her to accompany you.
How to fall in love
The secret is to know how to fall in love. It is not hard but it can be tricky. Here is how you can fall in love easily.
Stay positive: The positive force that radiates from you will help you find your right partner. People are quick to recognize if you have a positive approach towards life. Even if you have bitter experiences in the past, try not to brood over it too much. Go out and meet people. You’ll obviously meet someone who will find you interesting.
Meet people: We meet people in our offices, health clubs, pubs, churches etc. Keep yourself open for conversation and approaches. If you notice someone taking interest in you, encourage that person to approach you. Talk to him/her, meet often, and discuss about common interests. Try and avoid falling in love at the first sight. Take time in understanding and knowing each other.
Spend time: If you both enjoy the company of each other spend more time together. This way you will learn the true intention of that person. It will also help you knowing each other better. Plan to meet over the weekend and engage yourself in interesting chats. You’ll soon understand if it’s the beginning of a beautiful relation or not.
Don’t hesitate: Don’t let yourself get intimidated by extreme beauty and social status. If he/she has agreed to go out with you then it means that (s)he enjoys your company. Also, don’t hesitate to tell how much you have enjoyed the time of togetherness. All these will help your relation to flourish.
Welcome love: If you have already spent sometime together and have enjoyed the moments, open yourself further. Share your life, your dreams and secrets. However, you mustn’t forget to notice the reaction of the other person. Look for hints of his/her sincerity towards you.
Accept love: Once you have overcome all your fears and uncertainties regarding your love, the time comes when you have to submit completely to the relationship. Receiving love is as important as giving it. So, let your partner shower his/her affection upon you.
How to keep true love
The final stage of a love relationship is to keep it. It is also the most difficult stage in any relation.
Keep a positive attitude: Once you have confirmed the romantic association, stay positive with the outcome of the relationship. Put uncertainties and insecurities at bay. If you keep your faith that everything will be positive you are also likely to see positive things happening.
Say ‘I love you’: Don’t restrict yourself from saying ‘I love you’ if you are truly in love. Don’t assume that your partner will know instinctively. When you are in love, expressing it becomes most important. Let your partner know that (s)he is special for you.
Make the commitment: Make commitment to stay together. Gaining and entrusting trust upon your partner is important for a healthy relationship. Make the promise to stay together and share life.
Trust your love: Trust works as the cementing factor in a relationship. So, don’t compromise the trust of your partner and at the same time also entrust your trust upon him/her. Insecurity can cause havoc in your relation and hence if you know that the person loves you accept it as true. Don’t keep asking your partner if (s)he loves you or not.
Allow yourself space: Being in love doesn’t mean that you have to stay together all the time. We often tend to over prioritize the special person in our life and as a result schedule all plans around him/her. Keep your separate friends, maintain your identity, and plan activities without him/her. Allowing yourself space is important for a successful relationship.
Be accommodative: No one is perfect and hence be accommodative to both the positive and negative qualities of your partner. Don’t criticize his/her negatives often. Rather, if you find some qualities really irritating you can sit together to sort it out.
Retain your respect: Don’t go beyond your ability to make your partner happy. Retaining your respect is important in a relationship. Don’t be compromising. Stand for your causes.
Celebrate life: Enjoy your life as well as the relation. Make it worth living. Try out new things and innovations to spice up the relation. Take time in learning more about each other.
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