How to Deal With the Discomfort when Meeting an Ex Lover
Meeting your ex lover after the break up can cause anxiety and restlessness, especially if there were a series of discord and disagreements leading to the split. Bumping into the ex-flame can bring on an awkward feeling. You might start babbling or behaving stupidly if you are not sure of the right way to handle the situation.
Some amount of discomfort is bound to creep in when you meet your ex but mastering the right manner to handle the uneasiness will help you stay relaxed and be calm and easy when meeting an ex lover.
Take control of your expressions
Going out with your ex lover may not be a happy situation but you can handle the anxiety with confidence and composure. When your meet with the ex flame is sudden and unexpected then it is best not to show a startling or shocking expression on the face. Do not panic when you accidentally bump into your ex but maintain control and composure to let the meeting go off smoothly. Whatever your relationship may have been in the past but it is best not to let the bitter experiences of the past have a negative impact on your body language or way of interaction when you face your ex after the break up.
Keep a light-hearted mood throughout the meeting
Meeting an ex lover is often uncomfortable for both people but you can turn the discomfort into a pleasant experience by engaging in lighthearted conversations. You and your lover may no longer feel the need to engage in a heart-to heart chat but be cordial and maintain a light-hearted tone. Be calm and polite and tell yourself that this meeting would last for only a few minutes.
Use humor to ease nervousness
Crack jokes and get little humorous to alleviate the distress and defuse the tensed atmosphere when you meet your ex after the breakup. There are less chances of getting angst-ridden or getting into a argument when you act funny with your ex. Humor can help put aside negative vibes or disturbing questions that you do not wish to deal with. However, be cautious when you are being funny as your ex might not take your humor in the right sense. It might help to be self-deprecating and laugh on the jokes about you as it will push you out of the sticky moments.
Keep the meeting short
The more time you happen to spend with your ex, more will be the chances that you both may get embroiled in bitter arguments and negatives jibes. Even if you are engaged in interesting conversations with your ex but you find no future for the relationship then it is best to cut those conversations short and take a leave. You might feel tempted to initiate conversations on relationship issues and discussions if you happen to spend a long time with your ex. Therefore, keep the momentum going but you will have to cut it short when you see things taking a negative turn.
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