How to Deal With Having a Crush on Your Friend's Brother
You have started to notice your friend’s brother in a special way. To you, he is sophistication personified. You are smitten by his cuteness, his intelligence, his personality. You admire the way he dresses, the way he styles his hair, the way he smiles, the way he carries himself – to summarize, you have been heavily crushed by a crush on him.
But, you are a little confused about your feelings too, and a little anxious too. You are not sure if he has ever noticed you at all. You wonder whether you are just his sibling’s friend to him. You know for sure that you treasure your friend and your friendship. But at the same time, you would like to take a step towards him to create a bonding.
Here are a few points to consider when you are smitten by your friend’s brother and handle the situation in a responsible manner –
Determine how serious you are about it: Before you take any step or communicate your feelings to either your friend or her/his brother, be sure about your feelings for the boy and how seriously you want to pursue it. You should be sure if it is a temporary infatuation or you really want to establish a long-term relationship.
Get to know the person better: Do you know your friend’s brother properly? Or are you infatuated with the image of the person in your mind? You should develop a relationship with someone only after you know the person properly so that there are no surprises in store later on.
Improve your relationship with your friend: Take care to strengthen your bond with your friend. You may need her/his help to reach out to the boy. Bonding with your friend will also help you to know the guy and his family better. This will give you an insight about his values and principles too.
Try conveying the idea to your friend and see how she/he reacts: Your friend may feel betrayed if she learns about your feelings from someone else. Also, you need to gauge whether your friend is open to the idea of accepting you as her/his brother’s girlfriend. Take care to taste the waters so that you can retrace your advance if you feel that the time is not right yet.
Try to involve the guy in activities: Try to create happy times with the boy. Find out what he likes to do. You may take up an activity or hobby together. You may also involve your friend too. This will help him to know you better.
Try to send waves of subtle hints: You may give him a little more attention than you usually do. Give him sweet smiles or innocent but flirty looks. This may perhaps make him notice you in a different light.
Do not make your intentions too obvious: Take care to come as a dignified person. Being too open with your intentions may seem childish – not something a classy person would resort to. Also, this would save you from not being embarrassed if you ever need to cover your track and erase the incident from your life.
Try to get his personal number: Try asking for his personal number and see if he is okay to trust you with it. But use it with care and responsibility. Do not be a cause of irritation. You may feel like hearing his voice 24X7, but you will have time for all that once you create a stronger connection.
You may add him in your Social Media list if he is okay with it: See if he would add you as friend in Social Media. This will help you exchange your ideas and communicate with each other.
Do not flood him with calls or messages: It will spoil all your chances if you cause him irritation or anger. If you have gained access to his personal number, or you have been added as a friend in Social Media, act responsibly. This portrays your personality in a better light too.
To round off, remember to be a little careful as long as you are not completely sure about his feelings for you and how your friend will take to the idea of having you are her/his brother’s girlfriend. Also, remember your dignity should never be sacrificed – it may be cool to pursue a crush, but no one respects a person who appears to be too desperate. If this guy already has a girlfriend, respect this relationship.
Behaving badly with his girlfriend will make it very easy for him to tick you off his list of likeable people. Finally, it would be a disaster to make any intimate advances whatsoever as long as you do not establish a strong and stable relationship with the boy.
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