You two are buddies. You two share a lot of common interests. You spend a lot of time together – sometimes in company, and at other times just with each other. You can strike great conversations together.
Both of you realize that you have a lot in common with each other. You feel great being around each other. And then you suddenly realize that you have a crush on him. Well, he seems to like you too. Or so you think. But is the intensity same as yours? He may have noticed your intentions (but pretends not to), or he may be blissfully unaware.
He may reciprocate your feelings, but is too timid or still unsure to come out with it. Or he may be swinging off in the opposite direction. This “He Loves Me / He Loves Me Not” feeling is weighing you down.
Here are ten tips that will help you to deal when you have a crush in your guy friend and he doesn't know:
Don’t avoid him or ignore him: Avoiding or ignoring your buddy may actually send him wrong signals and confuse him totally. He may get the idea that you have suddenly become disinterested in the friendship.
Try to notice if his attitude towards you shows any difference: If the guy has similar feelings for you, he’d surely drop hints. Be clever to catch them. However, don’t go looking for hints where none exist. Sometimes if we really want something we start imagining things. Learn to recognize reality and discard fantasies.
Drop innocent and subtle hints: There is no point in liking a guy and keeping it a big secret unless you want it to remain just at that. So, if your guy still has his eyes closed, you’d have to make an effort to make him look at you. Steal glances at him, look him into the eyes – make sure he notices that you are being different with him.
Hold on to your confidence: Confidence makes you comfortable with yourself and allows you to take the risk of exploring the options. Confidence also is charming and alluring that would attract attention.
Create happy times involving the two of you (but not necessarily two-some only): Try spending more and more time together. This way you can help to strengthen your bond. Create happy memories that both of you would love to hold on to. And who knows he may feel that you are becoming as indispensible to him as he is to you!
No need to hide your intentions: You may feel uncomfortable to directly communicate your feelings to him. But innocent flirting will help him realize that you are trying to be a little more to him than just a friend. But also keep in mind that not all pursued crushes bloom into full fledged relationships.
Get him to interact with you more and more: Get your crush to talk about himself, likes dislikes – in a nutshell, get him to share is life with you. This will show him that you are taking an interest in him.
Be who you are: Never change who you are for your crush. If he doesn’t like you for what you are chances are he’s not the one made for you. It is not right to give anyone so much control over your life.
Respect his thoughts and emotions: Learn to accept the other person’s decision with dignity and let it be. Some things are better not pursued further. Otherwise, you may come across as a nagging person and may sour or embitter your friendship as well.
Take consequences like a matured and responsible individual: Accept that in life not everything will be done your way. That does not mean you would become a spiteful or revengeful individual. Never nurture any hard feelings.
As we round off, the most important thing to handle in this situation is your emotion – raw and provoked. If your crush takes to you too, life would seem hunky dory. Of not, well, you have to learn to accept it and respect the other person’s feelings and emotions as well. Life is not always about what we want and ways to have everything our way. In case, you realize that your guy friend wants to keep it to being just your buddy, and yet you simply can’t stop going gaga over him, it is best to give your friendship some space. Concentrate on your other friends and on having a ball with them. Being clingy or forceful has never done any good to any relationship. Be in control of your emotions and live life like a happy playful Princess!
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