How to Cope When Your Husband Leaves You for Another Woman
For any woman it is very painful to accept when her husband leaves her for some other woman.
It hurts her pride and dignity. It even pricks her ego.
But the inevitable has to be faced and dealt with. Here are a few tips --
Do Not Blame Yourself: Realize that there is nothing wrong with you. You are not the reason why your husband went astray, even if he says so. Playing the blame game is just his way of defending himself somehow.
Accept The Situation: Learn to accept the situation, as difficult as it may seem. If your husband walks out of the relationship, it is The End of it. Don’t dream of his repentance or hope of patching up. In fact, you should seriously consider whether you yourself should have such an unworthy companion in your life ever again.
Do Not Compare Yourself With The Other Woman: Do not compare yourself with the other woman and try to tally in a spread-sheet what she has that you don’t your vice versa. Surviving a break-up also involves moving on and personal healing. Jealousy will not help the process in any way.
Do Not Try To Find Reasons: It’s no use finding reasons behind your husband’s infidelity. Brooding over the topic would make you feel depressed. Reasoning and working on them isn’t going to reverse what has happened. So don’t lose your sleep over it.
Allow Yourself To Mourn: It’d okay to grief. You need your time to cope up with the sudden drastic change this brings to your life. Cry if it makes you feel better. You can only move on to the healing part after you are done with the mourning.
Share with Friends: Friends are the pillars of support at times of disillusionment. Share your grief with friends. You may also consider joining online communities of women who have gone through similar situations. You’d need all the support and encouragement to let go.
Look After The Kids: A broken home makes the kids feel insecure and scared. Even they might feel deserted. Reassure them that they have all your love, company and support.
Get On With Your Life: It would be better to socialize, make friends and enjoy. Nurture a hobby. Get back to work. In other words, anything that would keep you happily occupied.
Don’t lose faith and hope: There is light after every tunnel. And even this dark phase of your life will pass. Don’t make this incident make you bitter and judgmental. Positivity will help you turn a new leaf over.
Take care of Yourself: Breaking up a marriage entails a lot of socio-economic and emotional repercussions. And it’s you who have to deal with it all. But remember to take care of yourself too.
To conclude, realize that you are not alone. Everyday millions of women across the globe are dealing with similar situation of abandonment. It is a difficult situation, but nothing that a strong will and positivity cannot overcome.
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