For a while you have known that it is not working for you any longer. But you did not know how to put it in words. Perhaps in her heart she knows that too. Whenever there is a drift in a relationship, both the people involved in it feel the pull apart.
And when this happens, it is cowardly not to face it and resolve it. Now the difficult part comes – who will take the initiative! Well, when your life is involved too, you have every right to take up the issue. But for the good times’ sake, you should be gentle and kind about it, although firm and final too.
Here are a few tips to help you break up with your girlfriend with dignity –
Talk Patiently About How You Feel About The Relationship: Let her know how you feel that things have gone irrevocably sour and it would be good for both of your happiness to put it to an end.
Don’t Play The Blame Game: No relationship is one-sided affair. So don’t point your fingers at her. It will only lead to heated arguments and nothing else.
If She Needs Some Time, Give It To Her: She may need some time to understand “why not” especially if she is still in love with you. She is hurt. So be kind and bear with her.
Call It An End With Finality: If you think that talking over an issue or two will resolve your problems, do so before you decide to snap the tie. But when you decide to quit, it should be final.
Don’t Make It Seem That You Are Doing It For Her Benefit: It would be very foolish if you tell her that you are liberating her or doing this for her happiness and better future. And it would mostly be an outright lie too.
Make Her Understand That There’s Nothing Wrong With Either Of You: Tell her what you like about her. Make her realize that neither of you are “bad person” – just that you have your differences.
Don’t Be A Chatterbox: Don’t talk about the breakup with your friends unless you have talked it out with her. Also talking negative things about the girl only shows your bad taste.
Don’t Go Around With Anyone Else Before You Officially Breakup With Your Girlfriend: Even if you feel attracted towards somebody else, it would only complicate matters if you start dating that other girl before you officially breakup.
Treat Her With Respect and Dignity: Behaving badly with her will only prove that you are not a good or matured person.
Don’t Breakup The Cold Way: Have the guts to face her and talk to her about the breakup. There is nothing more insulting than breaking up over email or SMS and the likes.
Finally, be sensitive about the issue. Remember she is hurt too and feels vulnerable. There is no use delaying the inevitable – just that you need to do it amicably.
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