You have known it in your heart for a while. And now you want him to know it too. You have given your relationship the best shot. But you think it is not going anywhere.
If you are not happy about your relationship, it is no use being in it. Yes it would be painful. Yes it would be a tricky situation to handle. But a few simple steps can help you handle the situation without too many hitches.
Here are a few tips on how to break up with your boyfriend without much ado –
Communicate How You Feel: In a relationship, it is not good to hide feelings from each other. If you are unhappy about something you should talk about it at length and with frankness.
Talk To Him Before He Knows Of It From Someone Else: It would be very disrespectful if your boyfriend knows of your intentions to breakup from someone other than you. So before you babble a lot about it to your friends, be courteous enough to discuss it with him.
Be Honest About Your Reasons For Break Up: Sugar coating will not get you anywhere. So it is better to be honest about why you want to call it off. It is his right to know.
Talk To Him In Person: No matter how tech savvy both of you may be, breaking up over an email or SMS is not the right thing to do. Even a handwritten note is not what you should resort to. Have the decency to face him in person and give him a hearing too.
Once You Make Up Your Mind, Stick To Your Decision: Give a lot of thought about why you want to breakup. Is there any change that you are looking in him? Do you think the equation can be restored in any way? Be doubly sure that breakup is what you want since it would be a painful process for you even if you are the one initiating it.
Don’t Let Him Hope For A Comeback: Let him know for sure that you are not taking a break for a while, and that you do not intend to patch up even at length.
Sever All Contacts: Being “friends” with your ex may sound cool, but may not be practical. It may prevent both of you from moving on.
Don’t Retaliate To Any Bickering Or Immature Behavior: Even if your boyfriend acts childish and takes to bickering or badmouthing, you should not lose your grace or dignity. Forgive and ignore considering that he is in pain.
Don’t Disrespect Him Before His Friends or Yours: Respect his dignity just as much as you would want him to respect yours – making him a laughing stock only portrays you as a cruel person.
Don’t Let It Drag On: The breakup should be kept short and sweet – going on and on about it will not take you anywhere at all.
Finally, you don’t need to be the epitome of strength. It’s okay to nurse a wound and cry about it too. With time, the bitterness will go. You just need to give yourself the time to turn a new leaf.
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