How To Break Up With A Long Distance Boyfriend
As the world is advancing in the area of science and technology each day, maintaining a long distance relationship is becoming easy and simple. Earlier a couple had to depend on letter writing or at best trunk calls.
Now there are a whole lot of options to choose from. Phone calls, text messaging, emails, chatting and using Skype video chat helps couple to keep in touch on a daily basis. But having said so, it can’t be denied that the couple still misses togetherness to some extent that is enjoyed in a conventional relationship.
As trust and love are the most important feelings in any relationship, a long distance one can often create insecurity and wariness between partners. It becomes very convenient for one to cheat or deceive the other and difficult for the other to detect.
If such is the case it is better to break-up right away as the person does not deserve your love and loyalty.
It is important from your part to first find out the genuinity of the reasons for break up.
Is your boyfriend really cheating on you or someone is misinforming or misguiding you for some ulterior motive?
Did you honestly try to communicate the differences that you may be experiencing with your partner?
Are you the one in fault and did you honestly try to mend it?
Is there no option left other than break-up?
It is very easy to say no and goodbye but it is very difficult to renew it later, so be very sure before you take the drastic step.
Once it is decided there is no looking back. However awkward it might feel, it is better to tell him personally about it. If personal meeting is not possible in near future you can write a letter to him conveying your feelings and reasons for breakup. You may also call him or Skype him. This will give you both a chance to exchange your feelings and reciprocate at a personal level as your voice, eyes and body language conveys a lot rather than words in a letter.
Don’t blame him as it might become dirty encouraging counter blame. Instead explain him as to what went wrong in the relationship and what part you didn’t like.
Give him opportunity to speak out. The whole thing of break-up might shock him so give him time and space to grasp it first.
Be prepared for his reaction to break-up. It could have been all hunky dory for him. A sudden ‘no’ can bring mixed emotion in him. He may try to apologize to you and convince you to think over, behave aggressively, scream, cry, try to hurt you emotionally, force you to continue or just keep mum. Tell him that you have genuinely given it a thought and there is no other way out.
Convince him that it has nothing to do with personal failure and he still possesses some of the finest qualities which you have liked. It is just that your relationship is not working. Lend him your support if required and inspire him to move on in life.
Once it is over from both sides, make it a point that you never meet each other or keep in touch as it may complicate things at a later stage.
The best part in a long distance relationship breakup is you are out of sight of each other which helps to overcome the situation faster and also your chances of a sudden encounter is rare than in a conventional relationship.
AAPOD : 05/04/2013
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