How To Break Up And Live Together
Break ups are always hard to deal with. Things become worse when you are already living in with your partner. If a couple is left with no option but to stay together just because they are having financial bindings, situation sometimes may go out of control.
It becomes difficult to retain the “friendship” status between the two because the relationship was in a different level so far. The reasons of break up must have been stronger than the feelings of the heart, but still you cannot deny the existence of the old memories in between.
If you are facing a similar situation, read on to have some valuable tips:
Sit together and have discussion on important matters: You need to remember that love may not exist between you two, but the other responsibilities are still there. For example, if you have been sharing the rent, and most of the time he/she used to pay the whole amount, now it needs to be divided equally. If there are legal documents containing both names, sort the discrepancies out. Try to come to a mutual understanding so that none of the partners can avoid responsibilities especially the ones that involve money.
Shift in a different room: Of course when you two were together, you could never imagine that, but it is now the time to get separated under the same roof. This will give you the much needed privacy and that will also ensure no redevelopment of any kind of physical or emotional connection. If you have decided to remain like “friends” or “housemates” only, stick to that.
No personal inquiries about each other: Since the relationship is over, you should not be concerned about his/her personal information like when he/she is coming back or going out. Stop asking questions about his/her friends or their activities as long as they are being done inside his/her room. When friends are common, ask them to visit him/her first before they visit your room.
Set your own boundary and rules and inform that to the other: Earlier you used to get involved in activities together like hanging out or going for movies. But things have changed now. Hence tell him/her the do’s and the don’ts formally and listen from his/her as well. Both of you must try to abide by the guidelines so that confusions and misunderstandings can be handled properly.
Stay away most of the time when he/she is in the house: Increase your outdoor activities as that will minimize interactions with him/her. Take a walk in the evening or spend more hours in the gym. This will help you to forget past memories.
Be cordial and if possible, a bit formal to your former partner: You cannot forget that the friendship between the two of you is again not normal since you were in a love relationship earlier. But again, you cannot be rude or show attitude to him/her just because you have broken up. Be cordial and courteous when you talk to your ex. If possible try to avoid long conversations and keep the new relation as much formal as possible.
AAPOD : 05/04/2013
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