When you are single – or even if you have been dating for a while – you will naturally begin to think about what the future will be like with your dream guy.
As you begin to progress along this train of thought, you will want to know how to become the only woman he loves.
Though it might seem far-fetched, there are actually a handful of predictable cues every man wants in a wife.
If you can reflect them to a guy with solid character, you have a great shot at Happily Ever After.
Respect Him As He Is
First and foremost, a guy wants to feel like you admire him for who he is, with all his faults and foibles.
If you look at the way men interact with each other, the quest for mutual respect is a defining aspect of the early stage in their relationships.
They don’t begin by saying, “You know, Frank, I think I’d like you better if you were a bit more self-confident.” (All men despise being told to change, which is what many women inadvertently do more of over time.)
When he knows you will still love him despite his mistakes, he will somewhat paradoxically be more willing to change into the kind of man every woman wishes to marry.
Listen to His Dreams and Fears
It might seem like a trivial thing, but most men spend more time holding on to the deepest desires they have because of what it might mean to attempt them. For him, coming up short is immediately thought of as a bad sign to a potential mate.
When he opens up to you about what he would like to do some day or the reasons he refuses to skydive, give him an ear and, if appropriate, some encouragement.
Offer Advice Only When Asked
Men and women deal with stressful situations in decidedly different ways. For her, much of it comes down to an initial purging of the details before seeking counsel with friends.
For him, sitting quietly for a while or spending several minutes venting is his way of attempting to figure things out – he’s not ready to hear suggestions just yet. When he asks your opinion, though, feel free to help him tackle the issue with gusto.
Communicate Your Needs
No matter how sensitive your man is, there will be plenty of times when he is completely oblivious to what he could do better. Tell him where you feel like he’s not showing love, whether it’s taking out the trash or picking up a gift from time to time, then offer a suggestion to help him wrap his head around the idea.
Believe it or not, he is eager to please you and will listen to whatever suggestions you have (as long as you don’t make them in the middle of a fight.)
Don’t Play the Blame Game
Nobody is perfect and, at some point, there will come a time when you defer to your man on a major decision and things end up turning out sour.
By giving him the benefit of the doubt (assuming he did the best he could) and offering constructive criticism (instead of pointing an angry finger), you will have made him feel secure in your love for him regardless of what happens, a big plus for him.
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