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How to Bear the Pain When Distances Occur...

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We’ve all been told absence makes the heart grow fonder, but that doesn’t make it any easier to figure out how to bear the pain when distances occur.

 

Whether for a few nights or several months, being separated from your sweetheart puts a strain on even the most independent of romantics.

 

When your heart begins to beat sorrowfully over the miles that keep you apart, try these five ideas to help you make it through:

 

Keep Pictures Prominently Placed

No matter how much your heart hurts, having some photos handy will brighten your spirits. Use the occasion to remember the good times you have had together and think about all the fun you will have when you are no longer apart.

How to Bear the Pain When Distances Occur

Imagine laughing together on long quiet walks or, if you just want to focus on one thing, how great the moment will be when you finally do see each other again.

 

Talk Regularly Through Voice or Video

The growth of technology has made it much easier for you to connect with someone in real time. This can be as simple as a phone conversation or, thanks to the rise of the smartphone, video chat through one of your web-enabled devices.

 

A good rule of thumb is that you should exchange words-only messages (like emails or messenger chats) at least once a day, phone calls once a week and video connections one or two times per month. You will be surprised how much a commitment to communicate will make the days easier.

 

Carry On a Conversation

Though you might seem weird at first, talking with your sweetie in the confines of your own head can do a lot to help you feel connected.

 

The longer you have been together, though, the more likely it is you two will have developed a supernatural sort of connection – almost as if you know what the other is thinking. By continuing to focus your thoughts on your lover, the two of you will certainly have warm hearts on cold nights.

 

Create Care Packages

Everyone likes to receive mail, no matter how much they love technology. Put together a box of items that are significant to the two of you – pictures or candy, letters or baked goods – and send them to your dearest.

 

As the two of you send these packages back and forth, you get the feeling of romance shared for generations by lovers separated by far more than a few keystrokes on a laptop in a less advanced time.

 

Make Plans to See Each Other

The rest of these tips are all about doing whatever you can to keep sane while you’re apart, but nothing makes it quite as easy to get yourself in a good mood as knowing the day will soon come when the two of you will be together again – even if it’s just for a couple of days.

 

When you get a chance, get out your calendars and nail down the perfect time to meet up, then set it in stone. This is an event that only a death in the family can keep from happening, so be sure to keep from making any appointments during that time. Once you know it’s iron clad, you’ll be able to start counting down the days and bring the smile back to your face.

 

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