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How to Accept that Your Crush Doesn’t Like You

Posted on :2013-02-28 in

They say opposites attract, which is a great concept – except when the person you are attracted to has the opposite feelings. 

 

When that happens, you’re left sorting out how to accept that your crush doesn’t like you, which is tough no matter how you slice it.

 

Believe it or not, facing this challenge is not the end of the world and you will be much better off once you come through to the other side. 

 

However, in order for that to be true, you will have to follow these XX steps to the letter:

 

  • Deal with Rejection

Let’s be honest: no one likes to be brushed off, it hurts.  After figuring out your crush would rather be with someone else, it’s natural for you to want to crawl into a hole for a while. 

How to Accept that Your Crush Doesn’t Like You

We all go through a period of mourning when our advances are rebuffed.  It’s important, before you move on to someone else, that you handle the emotions in full. 

You don’t want to be carrying the baggage with you when beginning a relationship with someone that likes you back.  It wouldn’t be fair to you or your new flame if you are still wounded.

 

  • Realize You are a Catch

This may take some time as you process the heartache, but you have to come to grips with your own good qualities.  You may have family or friends assuring you that your crush is the one missing out, yet you will eventually realize it’s true. 

In the dark days after being denied, do your best to focus on your best qualities.  It might be difficult – you may even have trouble thinking of them – but you have a lot to offer another person. 

The fact that your crush made the choice to go with someone else is not because there is something wrong with you.  And, once you believe that, you are well on your way to a great relationship in the future.

 

  • Figure Out What You Like About Your Crush

When you are done over-romanticizing every last detail about the person you had your eye on, you can take an honest appraisal of the characteristics that drew you in.

Was it their sense of humor?  Did you find their intelligence intoxicating?  Were you moved by their kindness?  Once you determine the personality traits that you find attractive, you can set out to find them in someone else. 

Just like heading to the grocery store to stock up your refrigerator, you do much better shopping when you go in with a list instead of pulling from the shelves randomly.

 

  • Move On to Someone New

After you have done the work to get yourself right emotionally and determine precisely what you are in search of, you are in a great position to land “the one.” 

Begin looking to connect with other people, whether friends of friends or using online services.  Move slowly and get to know your potential sweetheart before you go lunging into another pursuit. 

If they fit the profile you are after, give it a shot.  If not, there are plenty of fish in the sea – and you have a great hook.


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