How to Get Your Parents to Like Your Boyfriend...
There is nothing more stressful in the life of a woman than bringing the man in her life home to meet Mom and Dad for the first time.
You can sit around and try to figure out how to get your parents to like your boyfriend all you want, but there comes a time when you just have to suck up and do it.
The good news is, though, it doesn’t have to be the worst-case scenario you are probably imagining. With a little bit of prep work, they will soon love him almost as much as you do.
Help Him Play Up His Good Side
Before you ever consider taking him home to meet the people that raised you, the first thing you should do is give your boyfriend a good pep talk. Much like a job interview, he will want to be prepared to emphasize his best qualities as much as possible. Remind him why you love him, then focus on what is important to your parents – his work, his charitable efforts, etc.
See If You Can Get One to Meet Him Before the Other
There is no law that states you have to sit your boyfriend in front of both parents at the same time when making introductions. If possible, take a little bit of the pressure off by connecting him with just one of them first. Most people would tell you to go to Mom, as Dads are often more harsh on suitors, yet you must take a look at the situation – which is more inclined to like him?
Try to Get Together on His “Home Turf” – Within Reason
This might seem a bit odd to suggest, but it can be incredibly helpful to find a site that isn’t quite neutral for your first meeting. Picking a restaurant you know he likes – not a sports bar, a restaurant – will help him feel more comfortable when your parents begin hitting him with the “20 Questions” routine.
Get Them to Connect on Common Interests
From the start, you may have to do some work to help your parents and your boyfriend find things to talk about. Once they are done with grilling him about where he grew up, what his plans are and so forth, you must help them talk about something they all like (assuming he has passed the test so far). Let him and your father wax poetic about beer. Encourage him to discuss cooking with your mother. Do whatever it takes, as these small conversations often lead to deeper bonds.
Limit How Much They Interact (At First)
In the beginning, it will be much easier for your parents to develop a sense of who your boyfriend is in small windows. If you meet for dinner, for example, have plans set up to see a movie afterwards – in case things go bad or just to get out while you’re ahead. In the pressure cooker of making a good first impression over that initial handful of get-togethers, giving your boyfriend an “out” will be ideal.
State Your Case Without Getting Riled Up
Lastly, be prepared for the moment your mother reveals her opinion – or, more accurately, what she and your dad think, but she’ll be more tactful in saying. He might not quite sit right with them at the beginning (few boyfriends do), so calmly reply that he treats you well and you want to see where the relationship goes. In the end, it’s your decision, not theirs.
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