Gentle Ways To Break Up With A Man
Ending a long lasting relationship is easier said than done. It becomes more difficult for the couple if the relationship was stronger earlier but could not be continued for unavoidable reasons.
Especially for a girl, it is even more critical to break up with a man whom she doesn't want to continue with anymore. Earlier he might be sweet and funny but recently he has started acting possessive or fights a lot without reasons. Hence you are losing interest on him and do not wish to remain in the relationship any more.
However, you do not find a way to speak out the fact to him because you feel that he might feel bad. Here are some tips that might help you with the situation better and break up in a gentle manner.
Choose the right day, right time and the right place: Difficult, but you have to do it, since the matter is related to heart. It is not advisable to approach him bluntly and say that you don’t want to stay with him. You might have lost interest but the same might not be true for him. Make sure you speak to him when he is alone and preferably at a less crowded place because you aren't sure about his reactions.
Be clear in speech: Many of us are not able to do it and this gives rise to confusions. If you wish to break up with him, state this to him clearly. There should be no ambiguity in the declaration like “I am not sure but…” or “I am confused but”…tell him clearly “it’s not working anymore and I want to stop it right here”. Make sure you don’t sound rude while depicting the fact. Use moderate language and a soft tone.
Don’t blame him: If you are no more interested in him, that’s fine, but never put the blame on him because that’s demeaning for a human being. If he asks for a reason, politely speak out that there is a problem with compatibility and he will get a suitable match very soon, but unfortunately you aren't the one. Also, don’t point at him saying he is over possessive or rude because these might hurt him a lot.
Try to meet him in person and don’t use virtual means: It is very important for you to meet him in person. Calling him or messaging him, or emails are not appropriate ways to break up the relationship. If you are afraid of his reactions, don’t be. You need to face it once and for all. If he is a decent guy, he will never bother you after the day.
End it on a sweet note: You know you are not continuing with this guy anymore hence you may adopt a generous way to do so. Buy a small gift for him and after you declare, give it to him. Tell him this is the last gift from your side because you don’t want to end it with harsh feelings. This gesture will show that your intentions are good and you do not wish to hurt him in any way.
AAPOD : 05/04/2013
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