First Aid Kit for Heartbroken Souls
When a relationship comes to an end, we all wish we had a first aid kit for heartbroken souls. The pain of splitting up seems too much to bear and, naturally, we go looking for a way to heal quickly and bring joy back into our lives.
Having experienced the bliss of a fulfilling connection with someone else, we might be tempted to fill the hole left by our former sweetheart with all sorts of things – and almost none of them are all that healthy in the long run.
If you are carrying around a wounded heart, here are four things you’ll want to have available to help you out while you are on the mend:
A Willing Ear
The first thing most of us search for after we experience the pain of loss is someone to talk to.
As social creatures, there is something incredibly beneficial about finding someone to share all the emotions swirling through our heads.
Holding on to the anger, confusion and despair leaves us carrying around a weight we don’t have to bear. By finding someone with a willing ear – and without an active mouth, at first – you can unload the burden of your shock and sadness.
This will do a lot for the issue at the moment while also preparing you to go into your next relationship on solid emotional ground.
Let’s face it, having someone break up with us is tough on our egos. There is no way around the hit to your self-esteem, no matter how hard you try. Even the most independent people wrap some of their identity up in being part of a couple, so being told you don’t belong in that pairing any more can be a really tough pill to swallow.
This is why it helps to have someone around to provide some affirming words to lift your spirit and help you rebuild your confidence. Yes, it will be difficult to accept, but over time you will realize you have incredible value and can make the right person happy – just as that person will do the same for you.
It may hurt in the beginning, yet you must spend some time thinking over what went wrong. This is not an opportunity to blame yourself in any way, but instead a chance to think over the warning signs and ways you and your ex didn’t quite match up.
If you are a major basketball fan, for instance, and your former love kept asking you when a touchdown was being scored, then you know you had different interests.
Write down what you did and did not like, then think about what the ideal person would be. (Do so and you will be in a better position to find it next time.)
It may seem trite, but the fact of the matter is time does heal all wounds. You wouldn’t expect to be running several miles if you broke your leg yesterday, right?
Well, your heart is going to have to go through a similar process of stitching itself back together. It is a challenge, of course, and one that will be filled with good days and bad days, but allowing yourself to face those emotional swings in the name of progress will make you that much stronger when the time comes for your next relationship.
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