When you meet an intriguing man, it’s natural to wonder whether he’s in a relationship or not. However, being the expert flirty girl you are, you know you have to be subtle to find out if a guy has a girlfriend already.
If you ask outright, he will be sure you are interested and you are doing the chasing instead of being the one chased – no woman in her right mind wants that!
Of course, there are very simple clues to look out for that will give you a good idea if he’s involved with someone else or not, so make sure to pay close attention as he talks. Identify one of these signs? He might be taken already.
Does he hesitate when he talks about the restaurants he goes to with his “friend?”
If you continually notice a hitch in his speech when he talks about where he goes or what he does, it could be that he’s hiding something. Let’s say, for example, you are wondering if he’s visited the new Chinese restaurant in town.
If his reply is something like, “Yes, I went there with my…friend the other day,” he is clearly covering up another relationship. It could be something benign – maybe he has a child from a previous relationship that he’s afraid will scare you off – but, more often than not, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know he is seeing another woman.
Is he evasive when you try to make plans?
Yes, there are absolutely cases when people have to spend several nights working in a row. If he’s in the marketing department for a company that is nearing the launch of a major product, chances are he will be hard to get a hold of.
That said, if he’s not willing to commit to a timetable – or, worse, can’t look you in the eye when he describes why next Friday is a “no” – then chances are he has someone else to check with first. (His girlfriend!)
Keep an Eye on His Body Language
Everyone knows we communicate much more with our posture and tone than we do with our actual words. It’s possible, say, for him to be smiling and engaging, yet shifting his eyes around from time to time to see who is watching – in case he might get caught – or standing with his side to you and his arms crossed in a defensive posture.
The trick is being able to tell what is a nervous habit and what is worthy of suspicion. If he remains interested but distant over the course of your conversation, he may have a girlfriend already.
Check Him Out
In the age of Facebook, it’s hard to imagine not doing a little bit of a background check on people you meet. Even if his profile is fairly private, you might be able to see some of his photos. If you’re the type who would like to get connected right away, send him a friend request. Does he accept pretty quick?
It could be that he isn’t online all that often, but if you remember him mentioning it or seeing him check from his phone, he might be doing his best to keep you from seeing the details about his life.
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