10 Easy Ways to Make New Friends and Meet People
Back in your school days, it may have seemed easier to make friends.
You were surrounded by these kids day in and day out, so striking up conversations and hanging out just seemed to happen naturally.
Once you grow up (especially if you move to a new city, state or even country) making friends can suddenly be much more difficult.
You are busy with work, old friends have faded away and you honestly don’t know how to go about making new friends. Here are the top 10 easy ways to make new friends and meet people.
Get Yourself Online
While the internet has the bad rap of making people more distant, you can actually use it to your advantage on meeting new people. Facebook is a good place to start as you can chat up friends of friends in your area, and after “liking” and talking long enough, invite them to a local event. Other websites where people are making friends include Craigslist (under the platonic section), Meetup.com, Yelp, and other websites where people get together and talk.
Get a Job
Seriously, work is the new school as far as friends are concerned. You will be seeing these people day in and day out so work friends can translate into real friends if you find anyone with similar interests. Besides, you all have something in common right away: the same type of lifestyle, the same type of problems and the same joys when business goes right. Just beware of friendships with higher ups unless you are prepared for some grief from other coworkers and as always romantic relationships at work can get tricky too.
Get a Dog
If you have a dog and they have a dog, you have an instant icebreaker. Just think of all the people you can meet out on walks not to mention at dog parks. A simple “your dog is beautiful, what breed is he?” and you have a conversation going. Plus if all else fails, you still have a new furry best friend! Your dog will even do the unthinkable and watch the entire Star Wars prequels without complaining. Now that’s real friendship!
Get to Class
Taking a night course can gain you instant friends as right away you have plenty in common. You are interested in the same hobby or study, you have the same free night every week, and you can get together to help practice or study about what you are learning.
Whether it is joining a sports team or the local gym, or even just walking the block, getting active attracts friends. People are always looking for workout buddies, to help keep them motivated and to talk to them so that the workout flies by. Combine this suggestion with the suggestion of social networking as in leaving a message “Hey, anyone need a workout buddy?” and you are a step closer to making friends.
Get To Clubbing
No, not nightclubs, book clubs! Chess clubs, foreign language clubs, golf clubs, really any type of club where people gather repeatedly is a good idea. Book clubs and the like get you talking, so even if normally you find you are too shy, a passionate discussion about a protagonist’s motivation can quickly loosen up those lips!
Get To Stealing
No you thief, put down that vase! We mean stealing friends. If you happen to know just one person with more friends than they can handle, hang out with them as much as possible and steal their friends! Ok, it isn’t really stealing, as you can share. Nevertheless, meeting just one person can open up their whole circle of friends to you. The other great news is that these people have already been “screened” and deemed worthy as friends, which means less work for you.
Nothing brings people closer than being in a foreign land. Going on a group tour pretty much ensures new friends by the end. Even when traveling solo, chat up the locals, learn about their culture and you may just come away with a new friend. Pen pals can make amazing friends, especially if you can visit them or have them come visit you on occasion.
Get to Talking
Your mother always said not to talk to strangers, but it is time to finally ignore that piece of advice. One of the best things you can do in your pursuit of friends is to talk to as many people as you can. Chat up the friendly looking person next to you on the bus, the bored people in the dentist’s office, people you bump into at the grocery store. If nothing else it will help you practice your social skills.
The biggest tip you can get when looking to make friends and meet new people is to get out where the people are. It is easy to stay at home (and stay alone), but think of all the fun people out there that could be a part of your life if you only let them. Go to a museum, a sports event, a flea market, a book store, a wine tasting, a comedy club, a fair, church, a spinning class, a class reunion, a marathon, a café, a coffee shop, the library, a concert, the park, a festival, a haunted house – you get the idea!
Making friends can be a challenging task, but not an impossible one. Master the art of talking to a stranger by thinking up easy ice breakers ahead of time. The above tips tend to make it even easier as the event or activity you are attending gives you a built in topic of conversation. Can’t think of anything to say? Just smile and ask a question, people love talking about themselves! If you’ve met someone really nice but don’t know how to segue that into a friendship right away, you can simply ask if they have a Facebook page or email, and from there you can talk more and eventually invite them to do something. Just like that, you have a new friend!
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