What to Do When Your Boyfriend Wants to Break Up and You Don't
Stop. Don’t Panic. Relax. Breathe.
If your boyfriend does not seem to be your ardent admirer anymore, it is NOT the end of the world.
Well situation and time change. So do people. And adoption facilitates survival.
Rationalize Why: Give an impartial thought to figure out why your boyfriend wants to break-up and what role you’ve played in the decision making process. If you can figure out any changes that he wants in your relationship, and mutually agree to work on them, there are high chances of reversal of the situation.
Don’t Be Selfish: As you analyze the reasons behind why your boyfriend wants to break up, remember to have attitude of an onlooker. Easier said than done. But being selfish would prevent you from seeing things from his point of you. You can only work on the differences once you spot them.
Don’t Be Clingy or Suspicious: If your boyfriend is thinking of breaking up with you does not necessarily mean that he is seeing someone else. Stop being suspicious about each and every move he makes, and girls he meets. Clinging on to him will not help in any way to sort out what’s wrong.
Don’t Chase Him: It’s best to maintain your dignity and self-respect. Chances are that chasing him will worsen the situation. It’d give him a sense of being caged, and by virtue of basic human instinct he’d want to break free.
Give Him Space: Every human being craves space. Especially men. They need some “Man Time” even when into a relationship. More so if trying to break-up. So no repeated calling or SMS. No flooding inbox with messages. Your desperation will further drift him apart.
Be Yourself: Most women blame themselves if their partner wants to break off. Cut it. There is nothing wrong with you – the way you are, the way you look, how you perform in bed, et al. Do not change your inner self to accommodate anyone in your life.
Do Not Criticize: Remember that probably your boyfriend is suffering due to his decision. It might be a painful process for him too. It is okay to point out the ground differences between the two of you in an aim to fix the issues. But don’t be accusatory in the process. This may make him defensive and adamant.
Stay Positive: Destruction, self-destruction has never brought about any good. Remember that you as a person are valued by your near and dear ones. You play different roles in life – of a daughter, of a friend, of a sibling etc, and you have responsibilities towards them too. Be positive and recognize that a break-up is not the end of the world.
A gentle reminder – it is no good holding on to something or someone as a matter of fact that/who is bound to drift apart. Remember the maxim that teaches us to let go things we love. If they come back to you, they are yours to keep. If they don’t feel the urge to get back, they should better be gone from your life.
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