Whether your breakup with your ex was smooth or full of discord, choose to stay calm when you meet him/her the next time to avoid falling into an awkward and uneasy situation.
Maintaining composure is the key irrespective of whether you wish to get back the ex, be amiable with him/her or show you have moved on with your life.
Here are the top 10 ways to avoid turning into a hostile person and behaving calmly when around an ex.
Show a positive attitude
Try and control the negative feelings that swell within you if your breakup has been rough and traumatic. Developing a positive outlook will help you have a smooth interaction with the ex after the breakup.
Do not have heightened expectations
When conversations get fun and meeting your ex turns out a pleasant one then it will be foolhardy to get your hopes up. It is best not to nurture new dreams of getting back the ex or entering into a strong bond of friendship after a discord that led to the split.
Have clarity about your emotions
Try and assess the feelings you hold for your ex after the breakup. Being enveloped with false emotions will only cause more pain.
Try not to recollect the bad memories of the past
Regardless of your past experience with your ex, be calm and positive. Do not let the nightmares of your relationship in the past haunt your present or affect your approach.
Avoid engaging in blame-game
There is no point getting into bitter fights and picking up arguments over things of the past if you both have moved on in life and no longer wish to get back. Playing the blame game will only make it difficult to be cordial to each other.
Spread smiles and positive vibes
Crack jokes to bring a smile when you are around your ex in order to ease the tension or create a relaxing environment. However, ensure that your jokes do not hurt the sentiments of your ex lover.
Express your emotions properly
If the breakup has left you a little shaken and heartbroken it is not wise to let your tears come out. Showing excessive emotions may make you vulnerable before the person who has decided not to continue the relationship further.
Do not jump into actions that offend your ex flame or give wrong signals as these may cause tensions in between the two of you. Think very hard before you get tempted to say or do things before the ex as any action or word can have a negative impact. Have patience to analyze the exact feelings you hold for the ex-lover and to check the genuineness or strength of the ex flame’s feelings if he/she makes an attempt to rebuild the relationship.
Engage in lighthearted conversations
The mood is pretty somber and awkward when people meet after the breakup. To defuse tension, try to engage in light-hearted conversations with your ex.
Do not get analytical or critical
Leave the assessment of the feelings of your ex after the meeting for a later time when you get enough privacy.
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